Though this thread very much mostly is, "what are your thoughts about this rant of mine?" I really encourage people to discuss this, and perhaps challenge my way of thinking. I'm not trying to just get my opinion repeated at me, though if you agree feel free to show your support.
So, ADISC.. I'm frustrated. I feel like I'm living in a world that is become so focused with the idea of encouraging young girls, not boys, to move out of their box and embrace things not "stereotypical of females" that we have started demeaning and finding these qualities lesser, something bad.. something to be ashamed of.
I see signs of this all around, in almost every medium. Parents posting how much their little girl, 'doesn't like princesses, she likes super heroes and lizards look how amazingly contrary she is'. I see those posts get so many people talking about how amazing parents they are, and how this little girl is so special and wonderful. Posts involving any little girl that at a glance seems to conform to the perceived gender roles of her age however are usually at the best ignored, at worst insulted and treated as if the parents shouldn't be forcing their child in a box. Your little girl shouldn't have to like princesses and fairies you know? Why not give your some lego's?
It doesn't occur to them that she should just be who she wants to be, and if wants to like princesses then that should be okay too! That she's just as special of a human being and should be given the same praise.. instead of living in a world where only the tomboys get that kind of recognition.
It's not just children too. As you get older, if you are born and to a lesser extent identify as being female you are expected to not be in that box. The best way I know how to explain this is to actually attack characters in any media, video games.. movies, and the etc.
We are living in an age where women are speaking up about being tied down in these roles, but the way they choose to do it is by attacking the roles themselves, as if for some reason they are by default negative which I feel is creating a world where it's a bad thing to be 'feminine'. There is a big backlash that I notice on the character Princess Peach from Mario for instance.
The specific things that Princess Peach are often treated as sexist, she is a girl therefore she wears pink right? She is a girl therefore she is emotional right? People don't stop for a moment to realize that Nintendo even in Mario's world don't portray women like that. Not all female characters Nintendo owns run around only in pinks, not all female characters in Mario's world have such a strong focus on emotions. So they don't stop for a moment to think, perhaps this is just how PRINCESS PEACH is. So I see it as attacking a character that chooses to wear pink and is emotional, the type of character who would see two people fighting and perhaps try to stop the fight with a cup of tea and a smile. She is just that type of character and there is nothing wrong with these traits. It sickens me that we live in a world where such traits are attacked in the name of fighting sexism. If anything it's fighting sexism with more hate, hate for an entire way of being that I very much identify with. Hate for being sensitive, soft, kind, pacifistic, sweet, caring, and gawsh.. caring about how you look and what people think of you. Those aren't outright negative traits, just like any other traits in the world. They certainly have their negative aspects, but so does every way of being in the whole wide world.
This is the kind of thing I'm talking about and for the sake of time (both yours and mine) it's everywhere.. not just with this character. A certain type of character, a certain type of person, a certain type of way to be is just outright dying because anyone who has these traits is growing up in a world where they are told they are bad or at the very least shown in every way that moving out of that box should be an necessity, something to be expected rather then just encouraging the person to be whoever they are without worrying about the boxes at all. So much so that I honestly believe this is the reason it's more okay for a biological girl to be transgender then a biological boy. We still view breaking feminine gender roles as moving up, but embracing them is always considered a bad thing.
I really hope more people become aware of this. I know that fighting sexism is a fight that I believe we should be doing, I know that this is important.. and everything I am is that a person should be the person they want to be. Right now though, I think we are just living in a world where as a female it's only okay to be as masculine as you can be while still looking pretty. :|
Do you agree that we live in a world where the stereotypical idea of femininity is discouraged and attacked? Do you believe that this is alright in the name of fighting sexism? Do you disagree with any of the points I made?