I'm sorry for bringing up this subject, as I've seen so many threads about this issue but I feel like I could use a bit of advice here.
I've told my wife about that whole ab/dl stuff a few years ago. It was one of the hardest things Iíve ever done. She is the only person in my life who I ever told about it. It took me a few times to reveal the whole truth. At first I told her about wanting to wear diaper out of convenience without mentioning my need to regress and without telling her that Iím turned on by it. Only with time I told her all these other parts. In retrospect, I definitely could have done it better.
My wifeísí reaction, however, was quite equivocal. She keeps telling me that she loves me and she wants to find a way to be part of this. Sheís also saying that she understands why I want sometimes to regress and she wants to be there for me. On other hand she finds me wearing and using a diaper completely gross.
After I told her about my fetish we stopped having sex. It took a while to reassure her that we can have our normal sex life and that it should be the same way it always was. We got over it. It took me another few months to make a decision not to wear near her and not to mention it. It didnít feel right to confront her with something that makes her so anxious.
In the past couple of months something has changed. She started to mention diapers in order to turn me on during sexual acts, for example by saying sheíll diaper me. After an orgasm I always donít feel like wearing and she knows that so it became some kind of a compromise. She also told me that maybe if Iíll wear near her sheíll get used to it.
Iím writing this post now after I took her advice and put one on. Her reaction wasn't that good. She didn't say anything against doing that but I could see that it repulse her. Iím really confused and I donít know what to do. I know that sheís confused too and I feel like confronting her might only make things more complicated. Should I wear more often, until sheíll get used to it (and maybe even learn to like it like) or should I go back to that awkward situation when we both know Iím wearing occasionally only not near her and we donít speak about that?