Since I started going to meetings with other AB's like me, I've met a lot of people, some of whom I actually befriended. Inevitably, as you become closer, you start to discuss personal stuff, what keeps you occupied, et cetera. You already know each other's deepest and most relevant secret, so that opens up the possibilities to discuss how we ended up like this...
Today I posted in another thread (a story thread, so it was kinda offtopic) that I have noticed how emotionally unstable the average AB actually is. We're an odd bunch, probably more likely to be autistic, to develop psychiatric disorders including, but not limited to, depression, and more likely to have other kinks or deviant 'hobbies'. That's not surprising; there had to be a reason why we are into diapers and stuff like that. It's not something you were born with and for many people I've met a specific traumatic event can be linked with their paraphilia. This is not the case with me, and I'm not completely sure whether that's a good thing or not. But I digress.
Now don't get me wrong, I have met some pretty awesome people in the AB/DL scene and wouldn't want to miss them for the world. But like me, most of them are also kind of awkward and unstable, and have trouble fitting in with the rest of the world. If I compare them with the other friends I have... my friends outside of the scene are generally just so much more 'normal' in every way.
Since my mother found out again about me being an AB, and claiming once more that I have some kind of psychological disease despite the fact that she should know better, my self-acceptance has declined somewhat. I don't think it's wrong what we do, I'm pretty sure it's almost inevitable, and at the very least the most healthy thing to do considering we have these feelings... But stuff like this, along with the acknowledgement that most of us have a lot of issues... I mean, we would be weird even if we weren't into AB/DL stuff.
On the other hand, I have reminded myself before that boatloads of people get tired and frustrated by adult life from time to time. Some of the most mature people I know have said at times that they would like to be a child without responsibilities again. So in that respect, we're not all that different and we just take it a bit further than most people.
Also, there's the fact that I don't know as much personal stuff from most friends outside of the AB/DL scene. I mean, they may very well be even more f**ed up inside, without the outside world ever knowing. Who knows...
So yeah. How different are we really from 'normal' people?