Preface: I had a Eureka! moment tonight. As a few of you know I have a rudimentary background/understanding in Psychology, Sociology, and The Functions of the Human Brain. I have been fascinated with it since I was 16. Since discovering my own DL tendencies, exploring them, and finding this site, I have been uber curious in it's origins and psychological definitions of origin. Why and How can such an odd kink be so powerfull? Where does it fit into our psyche? And, most importantly, what are the reasons of origin?
I have been rather tormented at's it's lack of definition or area of study in Psychology for some time.
Tonight I had a thought on a possible set of traits leading to the realm of ABDL'ism and its related kinks.
The following topics are rudimentary thoughts on the subject and I am curious as to how many you can relate to/with.
If any do not pertain to you please note it in a post. If you have anything to add to the list please state or describe it.
You have always had (as far as you can remember) a propensity for toys, trinkets, gadgets or non-adult related items and lasting into adulthood. This category could include hanging-on to childhood momentos or sentimental items.
You have delved into fun-filled activities as a child/young-adult even though they were past the age of enjoying them or would be considered odd by most. These could include collecting items as a hobby even though they may have been considered a waste of time by your early peers. They could also include playing fantasie based games, either by yourself or with a trusted friend.
You ran against-the-grain. This could include having different interests that most of your peers. Perhaps you weren't afraid of scary or haunting scenarios; you were willing to explore things or places that would scare most people. You desired to be different and revelled in it.
You preferred one-on-one interactions with friends. This may largely include being more comfortable being able to share your thoughts and whims with a close friend rather than being amongst a group. Not to leave out social-anxiety; if loud and chaotic groups of people were not in your comfort level.
You at times were most comfortable by yourself and in-your-own-world. This could be best defined as needing the feeling of escaping to your 'own place'. The category here could also include being introverted at times.
Indifference was a 'norm'. The world seemed/seems to move in a direction that was/is a relatively shallow way. Society seems to have little thought or creativity to it. You perhaps have always sought a more pleasant definition.
You have been more interested in 'the experience' of life. Perhaps you were more interested in personal curiosities and paid attention to the details of life and were occasionally absorbed in them.
This is a short-list of examples that came to me while listening to music and getting away with my thoughts. I will have the chance to add more later.
The Eureka! moment was when I realized that ABDL'ism may be more of a personality trait than a trauma induced or discovered behavior. It may be determined even before we had any reason to pay specific attention to it or question it. It may be as unique as the development of preferences such as color favoritism. The path to adulthood is paved with seemingly unoticed influences in our eventual desires or interests. In this unique desire there must be a common personality trait somewhere.
I was under the early impression that trauma may have played a significant role in ABDL'ism but later concluded that many kids are subject to a certain level of it and does not lead to a noticable high number of those becoming interested in the kink of ABDL itself.
So, after this lengthy post I am curious on your assessment of it.
Edit: For those of you who are interested in the Sociology end of it; these traits are by-far and in-large at the child spectrum of it. Natural Child and Rebellious Child. It makes sense here.