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    Hey there! As some of you know I'm female in real life and I'm just recently interested in learning more about this side of being an AB. Previously I thought it was mainly an embarrassment / humiliation mechanism. And I'm sure for some people it is, but I'm seeing another deeper level to it, and I'm finding it fascinating. (Let me explain here: I majored in sociology in college. I find people-stuff fascinating in general.)

    Anyway, as an outsider, I sometimes get shy about using the word 'sissy.' I feel like 'little girl' is more polite for me to say. Referring to you all as sissies makes me feel like I'm being offensive or rude. Like calling a black person the n-word, or a gay person the fa- word. Or maybe it's as though I think I can only say the s-word if I'm part of the counterculture. It's clearly not a hate-word or ADISC wouldn't use it as a forum header. But does anyone else get where I'm coming from with this? I can't figure out why I feel so nervous to use this term. Was it offensive earlier, and then reclaimed by the community, like the word 'queer' was for gay men?

    Anyway, just thought I'd share my thoughts with you little girls. Very curious to see your insights and thoughts. Have a good rest of your weekend little ladies.

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    As long as you feel the shoe fits and you can wear it, so to speak. I'm not overly fond of the term myself, since I assume a feminine role quite willingly, though I've come to embrace it a bit more since undertaking this exploration. I'm not a big supporter of divisive racial/ gender-attraction/ whatever terms as I believe there are people within those groups who don't compute with what those terms are supposed to represent, and who honestly has never uttered any of these pejoratives in a moment of frustration?

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    I can't tell, since I just feel the same basically.

    Most people i've encountered, which refer to them as a sissy, are also stating that they also like to get humilated, more or less. So I always thought, this goes hand in hand.
    But I guess it's more about a general behaviour instead of wanting to get emberassed or something similar, i.e. a wish to be a kind of a little doll, with cute dresses, cuddled, loved and taken care of all the time, but rather in a passive manner, I think.

    So in the end I'm also only using little girl, for myself and other people, or mostly the unspecific term: Adult child, which is for little girls and boys.
    By the way, adisc still lacks the little boy header. I guess some are out there

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    Quote Originally Posted by Frogsy View Post
    Hey there! As some of you know I'm female in real life and I'm just recently interested in learning more about this side of being an AB. Previously I thought it was mainly an embarrassment / humiliation mechanism. And I'm sure for some people it is, but I'm seeing another deeper level to it, and I'm finding it fascinating. (Let me explain here: I majored in sociology in college. I find people-stuff fascinating in general.)

    Anyway, as an outsider, I sometimes get shy about using the word 'sissy.' I feel like 'little girl' is more polite for me to say. Referring to you all as sissies makes me feel like I'm being offensive or rude. Like calling a black person the n-word, or a gay person the fa- word. Or maybe it's as though I think I can only say the s-word if I'm part of the counterculture. It's clearly not a hate-word or ADISC wouldn't use it as a forum header. But does anyone else get where I'm coming from with this? I can't figure out why I feel so nervous to use this term. Was it offensive earlier, and then reclaimed by the community, like the word 'queer' was for gay men?

    Anyway, just thought I'd share my thoughts with you little girls. Very curious to see your insights and thoughts. Have a good rest of your weekend little ladies.
    I don't like the word sissy very much myself either. I don't really have much experience of it as a slur word in general use, so it's not that aspect of it that bothers me, but it still carries the baggage of being a fetish based on humiliation, which is not what I'm about. It seems to me there's a quite a bit of diversity amongst "sissys" - those who are ABDL and esp. those on ADISC seem to relate to it more like something which would come under the transgender or crossdreamer heading (I certainly do,) whereas other parts of sissy culture, and esp. as practised by non-ABDL sissies I find very distasteful - there's a lot of internalised homophobia, misogyny, and sometimes racism that is covered by non-consent and domination. I personally don't need to be forced to dress "like a girl" or engage in sexual activity with men and I don't have any fear/fascination with black men in general or their cocks in particular. I'm not criticising people who find this stuff arousing - everyone has a right to their own kinks, and they don't have to be politically correct, morally justifiable or even rational - but it's not my kink and I don't want to be associated with it.
    We went into some of this stuff in this thread about a year ago: Are Sissies Sexist?

    As to the offensiveness/ reclaimed slur issue, the short answer is you're not reclaiming a slur if you're not happy for other people to use it about you (e.g. Tory, Impressionist, Suffragette.) I think the right word for me is queer (an Old German wood-working term for something that's out of alignment) and that's the word I want people to use about me. AFIK "Sissy" was a word that a previous generation of American men who were into the kinds of things that now come under the heading applied to themselves, because they were familiar with it as a slur for "effeminate" boys/men, and the abusive connotations were more of feature than a bug ;-)
    Last edited by MsClaraRiddle; 06-May-2013 at 00:21.

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    Wow, there's clearly more lgs who don't like the term than I thought there'd be. Honesty I expected many explanations of why I was being silly and over thinking the issue. Thank you all so much for sharing your viewpoints. I look forward to other responses, including any from you who are totally comfortable with the term.

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    I see the terms "sissy" and "LG" as describing two different things. In my mind, sissies are men who enjoy cross dressing and wearing childish/infantile clothes for humiliation. They still identify as male, but enjoy the embarrassment of being dressed like a little girl. (There could certainly be female sissies, but I haven't met any).

    LGs, on the other hand, take on a new persona - they roleplay or identify as a young girl, rather than an adult. It's more about identity exchange - similar to being an adult baby, but potentially a bit older and with the gender swap. LGs may or may not be male-to-female transgendered.

    I am an LG, not a sissy, but since people don't usually know the difference (or use different definitions than I do), I don't get upset over being called a sissy. I don't consider it an accurate description of my little side, though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Frogsy View Post
    Wow, there's clearly more lgs who don't like the term than I thought there'd be. ....


    Quote Originally Posted by Adventurer View Post
    I see the terms "sissy" and "LG" as describing two different things....
    I think the issue is that the term "Little Girl" is often restricted in usage to women (cis or trans) whereas men who might be better classed as LGs are often lumped into the "Sissy" category (actually I did it myself in my post.)

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    While it seems like it is offensive to some of us, not in my case. I guess I do like the humiliation side of it, along the lines of you made me dress this way, it's not my choice. Like the old Br'er Rabbits: "Please don't throw me in the briar patch". But I also certainly agree that it seems, at least in the porn industry, that it is used to describe men being forced to crossdress and be slaves. Not our thing, necessarily.

    Sissy Patty

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    I think it depends on the person. As a female gendered person, who is also a Little, I am sometimes confused by terminology too. It doesn't help that except for in a few select areas, an LG is expected to be inherently drawn to pink and frills. Neither my Big persona nor my Little is fond of pink as a color(for myself, I have no issue with others who like it). Even when I am Little, I'd rather be digging in the dirt or playing with cars than having a tea party or playing dress-up.
    So, short version-everyone is different in some way or another.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Adventurer View Post
    I see the terms "sissy" and "LG" as describing two different things. In my mind, sissies are men who enjoy cross dressing and wearing childish/infantile clothes for humiliation. They still identify as male, but enjoy the embarrassment of being dressed like a little girl. (There could certainly be female sissies, but I haven't met any).

    LGs, on the other hand, take on a new persona - they roleplay or identify as a young girl, rather than an adult. It's more about identity exchange - similar to being an adult baby, but potentially a bit older and with the gender swap. LGs may or may not be male-to-female transgendered.
    That's how I see it too. I see myself as both a LG and an AB because I like indulging in things from all over the "little girl" spectrum, from super babyish things like diapers and pacifiers to things that are more for preteens like candy lip gloss, chunky nail polish, glittery makeup, shoujo manga, bad Disney/Nickelodeon hits from the 90's, etc. Sissies I see as people who want to be humiliated for these things, so I don't relate to them very well. I kind of wish LG and sissy were separated as identifiers in our profiles here for that reason...

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