I took these excerpts from another post, so that I could answer them, without continuing the "offtopicness" from the OP pmsl....
When I first realised what forum I had stumbled across, I panicked, as you will have seen in my intro post, I state that I think I am in the wrong place. I am then given a warm welcome and informed that I am in the right place for incontinence, and that I will receive a warm hearty reception regardless of my interests in the Community, they were indeed correct.
Whilst not having any interest whatsoever in the AD of ADISC, the "I" was why I arrived in the first place.
I cannot pretend to even fathom why anyone would sit happily in a soiled diaper, even for mere seconds, but that does not make me any less likely to get on with those who do.
You see, I am very much a "don't judge a book by its cover" type of person, and in having that philosophy it has enabled me to venture outside of my "comfort zone" and enjoy discussions with people from all walks of life.
I guess it is a bit like trying to understand the reasons why a chap likes to put his "pecker" inside another chap, or the other way round receive one.
Though the thought of the "actual act" disgusts me and makes my skin crawl, I am not a homophobe, I have a handful of online gay friends whom I love just as much as my online female friends. (I have no IRL friends)
I am 99.9% sure the reason why I am so averse to the "actual act" is because I was raped in that way, amongst others, by a gang of lads as a teen. Not something I normally like to divulge, but I needed to get the point across of why I THINK the "actual act" is disgusting, so that anyone that is gay on here HOPEFULLY does not take offence.
So, whilst I have absolutely NO IDEA why anyone older than a toddler would wear a diaper and get a "kick out of it", better still get a "kick" out of soiling it, I do not judge anyone does.
I am really confused with how sex comes into the picture, not with "how do you have sex in a diaper?", more how anyone can associate sexual feelings with them.
To me, my pads, diapers - call them what you will, are just something I HAVE to wear to protect my self/clothing/dignity from embarrassing accidents. That is all.
Having said that, although I absolutely and utterly detest wetting myself, or worst still, soiling myself with number twos... since I have been on this forum, I have sat and contemplated about my "padded undercarriage" and found myself pondering whether or not I actually remotely enjoy the perhaps "secure" and/or "comfortable" feeling of being "padded up" or whether I have gotten so used to wearing in these 6 years, that NOT having padding seems a little strange. I have yet to find the definitive answer!
When I first joined the forum, I joked to Si about how I searched incontinence and inadvertently found and joined this forum, but now Si knows that I have had some decent advice from it.
Si still "takes the pee" about the fact I wear pads, I need a bib, need special cutlery and drinking cups and occasionally wear my footed sleeper. Sometimes I get offended by it, sometimes it doesn't bother me.
I am going out on a limb here, when I say that I honestly don't know whether I have developed a further understanding of ABism from the documentary we watched about it, or whether my feelings are more like "ewwww why on Earth would they want to do that!?" I am truly on the fence. Either way, whoever is into it, they are still a Human being and still deserve my utmost respect.
So yes my feelings are a mixed bunch, but outside this post where I was actually asked how I felt, I shall keep them to myself.
Feel free to pick up on any point that I have made, I am open to criticism and further questions.