Disclaimer: This isn't meant to sound like anything else than me asking questions, framed with the matrix I believe in, that I cannot and will not find answers to anywhere else.
I've got some things that have been bothering me about Christianity, and since I've been a DL my whole life, and am working through that issue in the context of believing that a loving God created me. And I have a issue with that. and since that my pastor doesn't even know ABDL's exist, (Can't get him to say it's morally wrong) I'm kind of on my own.
First, if you care about my back story, some of it is here.....http://www.adisc.org/forum/adult-bab...-quitting.html
It seems like the happy people around this forum just accept who they are, and what they like, and move on. I have problems doing that. Partially because of who I got married to, and partially because of issues I have with accepting God's Grace.
I've been saved from about the time I was a 5 or so, I think the Bible is the World of God, and whosoever believes on him can have eternal life. So just for the sake of my problems, lets assume that I'm still trying to believe the Bible is true. I've got some issues...Psalms 139:13-14, and I Cor 10:23, Phil 4:8, for the most part. And then those verses in Ephesians about loving your wife. I'm not going to type those out, mostly because I'm here to ask questions for me, and not to proselytize.
And really, some of my main questions are, "is anyone at the point where they have a healthy family, are active in serving God, and involved in a church?" and if so, how do you balance and ADBL.... activity's? and... How open, or closed, are you about it?
Anyway, I guess I just skipped over the whole issue of sexual sins, and moral purity, but you get kind of where I'm at. And part of that process is wanting to get advice from others. Thanks for your time.