So. I've been pestering the missus to get an account so she could do this herself, but an account seems to be across the line for the foreseeable future. So, at the risk of not being believed, (I'll try not to care) I'll share a couple thoughts. I'll try and keep this short.
We have come to the conclusion, that, for us, we are each others' sexual, physical and emotional caretakers. No one else will ever even get the chance to act as any of those to me other than my wife, and vice versa.
That being said, my wife always brings up, when she knows I've been on ADISC, how upset she is that other SOs don't at least TRY (her emphisis) to gratify their ABDL partners. Her argument-and mine, now-is that since she's the only one who will ever (gods willing) be around to fill the roll of my caretaker, it's her (and my) obligation to at least try to fit into my (or her, but I'm going to quit with the parentheticals) little fetish.
My wife was confused, turned on and worried that I wanted to try diaper lovemaking. But, knowing I'd never be able to try unless she tried as well, she tried...and loved it. Now she makes me at least bring one out when we do it (I'm getting older...)
So what do you think? She and I think there is so much pleasure--and pain(the bad kind, I'm not into bdsm)-- to be had by or by not at least attempting to be compatible that the default should be "attempt".
Oh, and before you all think our thing is perfect, she refuses to ever wear, be social on sites like this or let me call her mommy or treat me like a baby...which I'm interested in, but not enough to be psychically hurt when she refuses...if I was, I'd hope that would be a different matter).
This is life, it's forever...where's the compassion?