Update: Since "little" is already taken... I need a new word. Ignore the references to "littles" in my definition section.
I do not feel like the currently accepted definition for adult baby fit me anymore because:
1. It is not a sexual fetish or even a non-sexual fetish at all for me.
2. I am asexual and have no interest in mixing ABDL with my sexuality (or lack of)
3. I genuinely feel like a baby/toddler trapped in an adult's body.
4. My ABDL has a much larger influence on my life than the average AB. The bedroom is litteraly the only place my ABDL isn't
5. I can't justify to people why I carry my teddy or paci everywhere by saying I have an adult baby fetish. I don't do this for sexual reasons. Never have.
Anyway I am now identifying as a "(i don't know I need a name for it)" (defined bellow). I think it best suits those who have been calling themselves ABs, but are not strictly fetishists. Breaking adult baby down into new groups will solve many of our disputes of what an AB is. People who carry ABDL as part of their identity and daily life simply are not the same as those who primarily get sexual pleasure from all this. Apples to oranges, still fruit, but...
Ultimately the binary of just "adult babies" and "diaper lovers" is very exclusionary to the minority groups we have here.
From my website:
ABDL stands for, Adult Babies (a.k.a. "Infantillists"), Babyfurs, Diaper Lovers, and Littles.
"(i don't know I need a name for it)"- (i don't know I need a name for it)s are in essence, are people who feel like, or actually identify as babies/small children trapped in adult bodies. For a (i don't know I need a name for it), the typical infantile behaviors and feelings associated being infantile are more deeply ingrained than an adult baby, and are rarely sexual. (i don't know I need a name for it) are not merely fascinatied with infantile objects or behavior, many (i don't know I need a name for it)s legitmately feel as if they are actually younger on the inside. Many people who would fit the definition of "(i don't know I need a name for it)" may still identify as adult babies. In addition to being a (i don't know I need a name for it), one can also be simultaneously an adult baby and/or diaper lover in theory. Many (i don't know I need a name for it)s identify as asexual. (i don't know I need a name for it) is not a kink or fetish. Most littles would be uncomfortable and victimised if exposed to any sexual interaction while acting little. When expressing themselves, (i don't know I need a name for it)s may choose to dress more childishly, carry stuffed animals or even use pacifiers. Many littles desire to find a caretaker ("mommy", "daddy", "big bro", "big sis" or other grownup).