I need some advice.
A few months ago, I began dating a girl who has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. Itís complicated, so I wonít go into super detail on it, but she has constant breakdowns and is largely unable to cope with the real world. She had a very traumatic childhood because of heavily abusive parents.
Recently, Iíve begun to notice she often ďregressesĒ and begins acting as a 4 year old for long periods of time. She talked about it to her therapist today who said that it happens as a way of coping with the world and going back to a time when you felt safe and comfortable. Sound familiar?
So my question becomes, should I introduce her to my AB/DL side? I obviously donít want to add any more pressure to her or put more stress on her plate, but I also wonder if finding a way to take it to a greater extreme would help her. I really donít know. I wasnít planning on telling her until we were more established as a couple and she had stabilized a bit more, but what do you guys think?
Quick side note: Sheís a very open sexual person (as in Iím pretty sure I could get her to try anything once) and Iíve always thought it was important to share this side of myself with whoever I am intimate with. She also knows I have a secret and has not pushed at all to find out what it is because she trusts that I will tell her when the time is right.