As we all know, I am one of the incontinent ones on here. Not majorly like some people, but enough that I have to wear diapers at night and a pull-up style diaper by day. But it's been a long time for me doing whatever to ditch staying with family and I do miss them. A couple of them know and a couple might have an idea, but I don't know about that. I know what caused this and the doctor hasn't been able to fix me, but as every holiday that starts coming up (in this case christmas) I have to be able to stay for a few days. This will actually be my first incontinent christmas....And I'm sure a couple of them who I'd explained the AB stuff to, probably think I'm doing this by choice. The only thing that truly is, is that I wear thicker diapers sometimes during the day because my AB side is the only thing that makes it okay for me. It's been over 8 months dealing with this, but I really would rather clarify things a bit. What do you guys think? Another big thing is is that it was caused by something that shouldn't have been there in the first place, and it is all my fault...I never knew this would happen and I wasn't trying for it. I was naive and didn't know this would happen at all. So that makes it harder to explain....Jeez I feel like I'm abdmitting my ABism all over again, lol - the way this is going. Anyway, I don't know, what should I do. It's not just the pressure from coming holidays either...I don't want them to think I'm some greedy person doing this selfishly.