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Thread: Concerning AB/DL as a Lifestyle

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    There's some very old threads on the subject but they are much too brief and less specific for my liking. Some recent posts and threads have made me a little more curious. I've also included a poll (it would be nice to actually get a comment too if you vote)

    But before I set the tone for discussion, and to avoid meandering semantic debate, I'm going to define lifestyle by how sociology has defined it:



    Quote Originally Posted by Blackwell Encyclopedia of Sociology
    Lifestyle involves the typical features of everyday life of an individual or a group. These features pertain to interests, opinions, behaviors, and behavioral connotations.
    To avoid some confusion, we could seemingly apply this definition to AB/DLs that only consider this a kink or purely sexual fetish and perhaps that could be for another thread. Instead, I'm interested in hearing from those that identify as an "AB/DL life styler". This individual not only identifies but also applies various elements of their AB/DL identity to other aspects of their lives rather than simply to their sex lives/private settings.

    So if you identify as an AB/DL lifestyler and apply some of those qualities to aspects of your EVERYDAY life, consciously or unconsciously, and place great importance on that, try and answer some of these general questions:

    1. What AB/DL behaviors translate into other elements beyond your sexual life (or relaxation time/private time for AB's)? To where and to what extent? (i.e I wear baby clothes in public, I express my AB/DLism through my art, my choice in food, how I sleep, ect.)

    2. How does being an AB/DL influence your opinions on certain matters?

    3. When you act, what subtle AB/DL connotations do some those actions inherently have?

    4. How affected are your interests in music/movies/art/hobbies, ect and where you spend your time influenced by it?

    (Yes some of these questions flow into the other a bit)

    If you wish to contest the definition, you may, but please give some specific reasons why rather than "I don't like it" or "that's not me."

    Others that answer "No" to it being a lifestyle and DO NOT identify (very important), please give reasons below with the definition in mind.


    It goes into the line of thinking in how one may identify as a musician. Some play instruments and do some musical stuff, but they do not consider themselves musicians, or look at the world in a "music oriented way" or do "musical" things to the extent a musician would. A similar saying "party like a rockstar."

    To maybe clarify a little more, if those aspects of your life that have more emphasis to you that others perhaps. A Libertarian might have a "Libertarian lifestyle" in accordance with his beliefs and feelings, similar in a way an AB/DL would with their set of values/feelings and inclinations. Some people call music or politics "their life" and might have a large amount of elements of their lives revolve around it.

    If that makes any sense.

    Thanks to all for answering.


    Please don't comment merely to talk about the picture, and please post coherent statements not in baby speak or you're on some kind of drug.

    Last edited by Geno; 21-Mar-2013 at 17:19.

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    I wear diapers all the time, they are part of me and my underwear. They don't effect my work performance or my day to day life. Everyone in the house knows I wear them so I wear them fine without a problem. Right now I am on the computer and my diaper doesn't effect it. i do touch myself down there because I like being padded but it's done in private.

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    Well, it's a cute picture, i couldn't possible not write a comment about it *giggles*

    Anyway, serious, maybe i'm using it kinda wrong, but i identify myself rather an *bdl lifestyle person. I'm sure it's not that way for everyone, just for myself.
    On the other hand, i really don't like to call it a pure fetish or kink. It's more something i like to do, simply put, same as a hobby. And it's rather asexuel anyway, for me. My boyfriend likes diapers from the sexuel side, i've got no problem with that, it's anyway the reason how i learned to like diapers, roleplay, etc myself.
    For me there's no limit how childish i can be and where. Of course i don't walk around like some crazy person, but i can surely be rather more childish, atleast a little bit, in every situation, if it's not way too serious. I don't think i got way too silly clothes, that i couldn't wear in public, except my onesies maybe . But a no-go in public or with friends is anything that they shouldn't know: something that may bother them.

    I can't really tell if my interests are affected by it or not, i like grown up things like languages, art, psychology and badminton. But i also love anime, manga, to draw and some games. But is this inherently caused from my *bdl side, if those should be considered rather childish, or is the *bdl just something that counts along with my other lifestyle choices?

    I'm not sure, maybe i'm really getting it wrong, i'm rather childish, my behaviour mostly, i like to be cheeky, i always kept my plushies, cute dresses, a binky on my eastpak, etc. Although i don't really need diapers or something else in that case, it's who i am. All the other stuff is something that surely fits perfect, but i call it rather a lifestyle. It's something i love, but i don't need it to survive. However taking it away from me could do a lot of damage. But i can also be a grown up person. It is possible that the grown up part may just be acting tho ^_-
    In the end i'm not sure, as i already said. What defines you?... i am, who i am, my lifestyle is still a part of me, i think...

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    Quote Originally Posted by claLira
    In the end i'm not sure, as i already said. What defines you?... i am, who i am, my lifestyle is still a part of me, i think...
    You more or less answered the question. It goes into the line of thinking in how one may identify as a musician. Some play instruments and do some musical stuff, but they do not consider themselves musicians, or look at the world in a "music oriented way" or do "musical" things to the extent a musician would. A similar saying "party like a rockstar."

    To maybe clarify a little more, if those aspects of your life that have more emphasis to you that others perhaps. A Libertarian might have a "Libertarian lifestyle" in accordance with his beliefs and feelings, similar in a way an AB/DL would with their set of values/feelings and inclinations. Some people call music or politics "their life" and might have a large amount of elements of their lives revolve around it.

    If that makes any sense.

    Thanks for answering.

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    1. What AB/DL behaviors translate into other elements beyond your sexual life (or relaxation time/private time for AB's)? To where and to what extent? (i.e I wear baby clothes in public, I express my AB/DLism through my art, my choice in food, how I sleep, ect.)

    Relaxation... I use my paci in stressful situations such as driving, and I hope to use it while test taking. I wear diapers for non-sexual reasons... My footie jammies are just how I prefer to dress for bed. As an AB I am infatuated with 90s technology and toys. I restore the things I remember from my childhood. My room literally does not have anything newer than 1999 in it. It does not take over my life, it rather "flavors my decision making". If I had to choose between a spongebob backpack and a plain one for the same price I would go with the spongebob one. I generally have the same product preferences as a 2 year old. Also, as an AB I am made uncomfortable in situations where other men talk about women's bodies as sexual objects. When my male peers are "like I would so hit that ass!" I am like "I like her smile I bet she gives the best hugs and kisses, I wish I could just fall asleep in her lap."

    2. How does being an AB/DL influence your opinions on certain matters?
    Growing up as an ABDL I felt like I was a freak and beneath everyone else. I always treated myself like a second class citizen. I let people call me a nerd and a faggot because I thought that was better than them finding out the truth. Now that I am gaining some self confidence, I have realized that everyone has a right to be themselves, and are entitled to their own opinions. I have embraced the "different stroke for different strokes" idea. I also am very concerned with at risk groups being picked on. I never chimed in and bullied others in high school, but I was never in any position to stop others from bullying regretably. Now even when it is uncomfortable I stand up for things I believe in, such as marriage equality and non-discrimination. I don't put myself in physical danger, but I tend to be that one nail that sticks up when people start gay-bashing or really saying anything negative about someone's identity/hopes/ dreams/whatever makes them who they are. When my friends and family say incorrect and insensitive things (afro-engineering, making fun of intersex individuals, ha ha little China-man, faggots like little boys, ect.) I correct them. I tend to take it kind of personally. As ABDLs we have been accused of being pedos by ignorant people. It made me feel really bad for a while until I realized that they were full of crap. None the less, when people say "faggots like little boys, thats what they do..." I usually have to keep myself from trying to stove their head in. Overall I know what is like to feel unwanted by society so I try to be sensitive to other's plight.

    3. When you act, what subtle AB/DL connotations do some of those actions inherently have?
    I giggle uncontrollably at funny sounding words. "dudey" "ahahahaha!!!". I also tend to steer clear of bashing incon people when my peers make fun of diapers ect. I also tend to make jokes from an ABDL perspective. Like my friend and I will be playing games and he will pause to go to the bathroom and I will be like "Have fun in there!". It was the running joke when we lived together. The AB connotation is that I don't have to go because I wear diapers. Actually though the joke initially had nothing to do with ABDL. We were used to say goodbye to each other loudly and obnoxiously when we lived together. As a joke when my friend went to leave I asked him where he was going and he said he was going to the bathroom. I was like "have fun, don't stay out to late!". Sometimes I will respond to answers in a childish fashion rather than being sarcastic. Or I will say "okie dokie" or "uhh oh spaghettios".

    4. How affected are your interests in music/movies/art/hobbies, ect and where you spend your time influenced by it?
    My preferences are swayed away from scary and sexual things. I am like a toddler, I don't like sudden loud sounds. As a "baby" I really am not into people getting boned on screen it is really gross and akward too me. This limits my movie and music selection.
    (Yes some of these questions flow into the other a bit)

    If you wish to contest the definition, you may, but please give some specific reasons why rather than "I don't like it" or "that's not me."
    No I think it describes me perfectly. Being ABDL definately influences my everyday life and behavior. I think I have been misunderstood in the past as running around with my diaper exposed wearing a romper. Living 24/7 as an ABDL means having a little flavor to your regular behavior that's it. Somebody mentioned a while back that wearing a rainbow cape "is too gay". Again living 24/7 does not mean running around in a rainbow cape. I guess the point I'm making is that ABDL is more of an identity than a lifestyle. I can be an ABDL 24/7 in public without being over the top.

    The picture pretty much describes me in a setting wear normal people would be running around in their undies.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Geno View Post
    But before I set the tone for discussion, and to avoid meandering semantic debate, I'm going to define lifestyle by how sociology has defined it:



    Lifestyle involves the typical features of everyday life of an individual or a group. These features pertain to interests, opinions, behaviors, and behavioral connotations.
    To avoid some confusion, we could seemingly apply this definition to AB/DLs that only consider this a kink or purely sexual fetish and perhaps that could be for another thread. Instead, I'm interested in hearing from those that identify as an "AB/DL life styler". This individual not only identifies but also applies various elements of their AB/DL identity to other aspects of their lives rather than simply to their sex lives/private settings.

    So if you identify as an AB/DL lifestyler and apply some of those qualities to aspects of your EVERYDAY life, consciously or unconsciously, try and answer some of these general questions: *snip*
    Uh-oh... you've confused me already (but I have only just woken up)...

    I consider this a lifestyle because I am an AB/DL all day every day. That doesn't mean that I do AB/DL stuff every day (although I pretty much do at the moment); it just means that being an AB/DL is an integral part of who I am. It's not "kinky behaviour" that I reserve for the bedroom, but rather... something I can't turn off. Sure I can (and do) act like an adult, but that "inner child" of mine feels particularly real and tangible all the time.

    So... I instinctively want to answer that AB/DL is a "lifestyle"... but I'm not 100% sure whether I meet your definition of what it means for it to be a lifestyle... I mean... being AB/DL is an intrinsic part of who I am, so it's the AB/DL me that buys a sandwich from the cafe when I go into town... but I don't buy the sandwich in an "AB/DL manner"... I buy the sandwich just like anyone else would!

    Does this sound like enough of a reason to say that it's a "lifestyle" for me... or not...? If I had to, I'd say it was a "way of being" or an "identity" more than a "lifestyle"...



    Quote Originally Posted by Geno View Post
    1. What AB/DL behaviors translate into other elements beyond your sexual life (or relaxation time/private time for AB's)? To where and to what extent? (i.e I wear baby clothes in public, I express my AB/DLism through my art, my choice in food, how I sleep, ect.)
    I moderately often wear diapers in public (but I'm very discreet). And I sleep with a beautiful children's-design duvet cover, in footed pyjamas (for the 6 months of the year that it's bitterly cold), and often cuddling my teddy.

    I play with all my friends' kids as if I were their peer rather than an adult. So I run around and chase them (or let them chase me), and sit on the floor to play with their Lego, or invent silly games by providing voices for dolls and figures, or just pull funny faces at them... Or show them how to make paper aeroplanes. And I don't get bored... for hours (although I get worn out so quickly in my old age)!

    I sometimes like kids' TV programmes... but... not most modern ones... and I'm quite fussy...



    Quote Originally Posted by Geno View Post
    2. How does being an AB/DL influence your opinions on certain matters?
    In the opposite way that not being an AB/DL would influence a "vanilla" person's opinions... (Err... I don't understand this question, really.)

    I suppose it has made me quite asexual and influenced my opinion on the kind of person that I would like to share my life with... Rather than a sexual partner, I'd want a "super best friend" who could "look after me" in a kind of slightly parental way. In fact, I'd even be interested (or curious, at least) about being "adopted" by a mummy & daddy couple (so not only asexual, but not necessarily involving any romantic attachment either)... I dunno... :-/



    Quote Originally Posted by Geno View Post
    3. When you act, what subtle AB/DL connotations do some those actions inherently have?
    I'm not sure quite what you mean... but if I see a pair of trainers with flashing lights in the heel, I just can't help but say, "Wow! They look cool!", and I have more than a passing interest in having my face painted at summer fêtes, and... some of my friends have commented that I have the mental age of a 3 year old... or have subconsciously treated my a bit childishly (and probably understand from my blushes and shy squirming and childish reply that I kinda like it...).

    But... none if this is stuff that happens often really... I pass for "normal" 99% of the time (well... maybe "normal" would be a stupendous exaggeration, but not AB/DL-like, anyway). So... yeah... I really don't know if you'd consider this a "lifestyle" since it's barely any different from a non-AB/DL lifestyle... but if you looked hard enough my "inner child" comes across very very subtly in everything I do because it's who I am... :-/



    Quote Originally Posted by Geno View Post
    4. How affected are your interests in music/movies/art/hobbies, ect and where you spend your time influenced by it?
    Well... My taste in music isn't really affected (since most kids' music is awful)... but I love certain theme tunes (like Rainbow from my youth, and Sam Sam from today).

    I like a lot of kids' films -- like Cars, ET, Flight of the Navigator, The Goonies, Peter Pan, etc. and I absolutely loathe action films, horror films, anything showing too much blood or being psychologically tense, or any tedious romantic, love-making or other adult scenes. Oh, and I never ever watch porn. I don't care what other people want to watch, but... even very soft porn makes me feel uncomfortable. Yuk! I'll never understand why sucking on something you use to pee out of should be in the slightest bit appealing to do let alone to watch.

    And it influences where I spend my time quite a bit, really (although I sometimes wish I had more self-control). A lot of the time I just want to get home so I can get padded ASAP... It reduces my day-to-day anxiety levels.

    But I don't like AB/DL artwork or stories or online roleplaying... so... my artistic tastes are fairly adult-like, except for the odd film or story.

    Wow... that was a long answer! I hope you find it sufficiently complete!
    Last edited by tiny; 21-Mar-2013 at 22:24. Reason: Weird echo repeating my posts (weird echo repeating my posts).

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    Actually looking at this it seems like a "lifestyle" would imply that we are different than anyonelse. ABDL is more of an identity than a lifestyle for me. The reason I was making such a stink before about ABDL is a lifestyle, is because I was fighting against the idea that ABDL is merely a kink. Identity is better. That being said though I still think it is still a legitimate lifestyle for a select few and I have nothing against making it a lifestyle.

    I think it can be a lifestyle if: You have a mommy/or daddy and incorporate it into a relationship equally or more than sex. This just describes a small portion of us lucky enough to spend a signifigant portion of our lives roleplaying(as in not just foreplay in the bedroom but actually interaction for 1 or more days a week).

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    Actually looking at this it seems like a "lifestyle" would imply that we are different than anyonelse. ABDL is more of an identity than a lifestyle. The reason I was making such a stink before about ABDL is a lifestyle, is because I was fighting against the idea that ABDL is merely a kink. Identity is better. That being said though I still think it is still a legitimate lifestyle for a select few and I have nothing against making it a lifestyle.

    I think it can be a lifestyle if: You have a mommy/or daddy and incorporate it into a relationship equally or more than sex. This just describes a small portion of us lucky enough to spend a signifigant portion of our lives roleplaying(as in not just foreplay in the bedroom but actually interaction for 1 or more days a week).


    ULTIMATELY I THINK WE CAN ALL AGREE THAT BEING ABDL CAN BE CONSIDERED: A FETISH AND\OR, AN IDENTIY AND/OR, A LIFESTYLE. IT IS UP TO ALL OF US TO DECIDE FOR OURSELVES WHAT BEING AN ABDL MEANS. FURTHERMORE EVERYONE IN THE COMMUNITY NEEDS TO RESPECT ONE ANOTHER'S CHIOCE AS TO WHAT ABDL MEANS TO THEM. THERE IS NO REASON WHY WE ALL CAN'T HAVE OUR OWN PERSONAL DEFINITION OF ABDL.

    If someone considers their AB to be a kink. It is a kink.
    If someone considers their AB to be an identity. It is an identity.
    If someone considers their AB to be a lifestyle. It is a lifestyle.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ForeverSmall View Post
    Also, as an AB I am made uncomfortable in situations where other men talk about women's bodies as sexual objects. When my male peers are "like I would so hit that ass!" I am like "I like her smile I bet she gives the best hugs and kisses, I wish I could just fall asleep in her lap."

    ...

    4. How affected are your interests in music/movies/art/hobbies, ect and where you spend your time influenced by it?
    My preferences are swayed away from scary and sexual things. I am like a toddler, I don't like sudden loud sounds. As a "baby" I really am not into people getting boned on screen it is really gross and akward too me. This limits my movie and music selection.
    Oh wow -- that's so much like me!
    Last edited by tiny; 21-Mar-2013 at 22:25. Reason: Weird echo repeating my posts (weird echo repeating my posts).

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    Sorry to be redundant or rude with all caps, but I don't want anyone to miss this little nugget of information:
    ULTIMATELY I THINK WE CAN ALL AGREE THAT BEING ABDL CAN BE CONSIDERED: A FETISH AND\OR, AN IDENTIY AND/OR, A LIFESTYLE. IT IS UP TO ALL OF US TO DECIDE FOR OURSELVES WHAT BEING AN ABDL MEANS. FURTHERMORE EVERYONE IN THE COMMUNITY NEEDS TO RESPECT ONE ANOTHER'S CHIOCE AS TO WHAT ABDL MEANS TO THEM. THERE IS NO REASON WHY WE ALL CAN'T HAVE OUR OWN PERSONAL DEFINITION OF ABDL.

    If someone considers their AB to be a kink. It is a kink.
    If someone considers their AB to be an identity. It is an identity.
    If someone considers their AB to be a lifestyle. It is a lifestyle.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ForeverSmall View Post
    Sorry to be redundant or rude with all caps, but I don't want anyone to miss this little nugget of information:
    ULTIMATELY I THINK WE CAN ALL AGREE THAT BEING ABDL CAN BE CONSIDERED: A FETISH AND\OR, AN IDENTIY AND/OR, A LIFESTYLE. IT IS UP TO ALL OF US TO DECIDE FOR OURSELVES WHAT BEING AN ABDL MEANS. FURTHERMORE EVERYONE IN THE COMMUNITY NEEDS TO RESPECT ONE ANOTHER'S CHIOCE AS TO WHAT ABDL MEANS TO THEM. THERE IS NO REASON WHY WE ALL CAN'T HAVE OUR OWN PERSONAL DEFINITION OF ABDL.

    If someone considers their AB to be a kink. It is a kink.
    If someone considers their AB to be an identity. It is an identity.
    If someone considers their AB to be a lifestyle. It is a lifestyle.
    Christ almighty take a chill pill (this thread wasn't directed at you). There is nothing inherently negative I'm looking to dig up on people, and this question isn't here to make people who identify differently feel like shit. It's a simple question, and if you took the time to actually read and understand, that's pretty much the understanding behind the questions.

    Holy hell.

    Thank you Tiny for the response, and ForeverSmall before going on a all caps tangent most people ALREADY agree with.

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