This is about exposing the DL side of me to a friend.
I have been contemplating exposing this side of me to my closest friend of 30 years. We have literally grown up together and known each other since the 4th grade. He has a very vested fetish/kink that is perhaps almost unique as *bdl'ism, that: being a "foot-fetish", and is quite versed in how secretive and humiliating it can be. He confided in me after knowing me for quite some time and I could tell it was a weight off his chest.
I do not fear his rejection as I am sure he would understand and maybe be relieved to some degree that he can closely relate to someone with a socially misunderstood kink. I do fear that I may be using him to gauge the social understanding of *bdl'ism because he is someone well versed in the world of kink/fetishes as he has alot more experience in his exploration on-line than I do.
Should/do I go through with it being the only thing I can gain is by hearing his unfiltered answers about what he knows about *bdl? Am I being selfish in this manner? Is it a further way to bond with him? Does it help either of us by exploring unchartered territory in a perhaps small common ground? Should I just keep it a secret as it involves an utmost secretive side of me?
I have explored this idea for quite some time and am wondering if my thinking has become muddled in the process and I am simply being afraid of nothing or being realistically cautious of using his perspective for my own gain.