I've visited ADISC many times in the past as a result of searches and finally decided to join.
I always had trouble with minor wetting as a kid and as a young man (laughing, waiting just a bit too long, etc.), which developed into full incontinence about 20 years ago. Literally woke up one morning in retention and by that afternoon was peeing uncontrollably, in conjunction with a host of major issues. Took years to get a diagnosis; an extremely rare genetic condition. I recovered some control after several years, but I still need diapers on bad days and always at bedtime (Abena X-Plus when out, cloth at home).
I'm a 2x cancer survivor and recently widowed. I'm still in the process of figuring out my interests now that I'm on my own. I hope to do more traveling.