The following is a hypothetical situation for which I would like your input on how you would handle.
Hypothetical - Joe has an unusual fetish; he is turned on by wearing and then taking off a hat while in front of other people. He is not attracted to other people or the idea of sex at all. This attraction to wearing and then taking off a hat while in front of other people is his one and only manner of sexual arousal. Joe should...
1. live it up. Taking off his hat hurts no one and causes him so much joy. He should feel unashamed of living out his ultimate fantasy of going to a department store and trying on hats while in view of the other customers even though he has no intention of buying one.
2. be cautious. He should only take off his hat in situations that he normally would do so even if he did not have the fetish (i.e. during a prayer or the national anthem). However, Joe should not feel guilty for enjoying these natural moments to the fullest as his primary intent was not focused on sexual arousal.
3. never take off his hat in front of someone without their consent. To do otherwise, would be to involuntarily involve someone else in your sexual fantasies against their will and is inappropriate in all circumstances. Such acts should be done only with a partner with whom you have explained your fetish and they have consented to participate.
Please tell me which of the three options is closest to your point of view and, if you want, why you feel this is the most justified option. For the time being, please refrain from comparing or contrasting the hypothetical to your own fetish. Even though that is part of the overall purpose of my post, I want to start the discussion purely within the boundaries of this hypothetical.