First of all, I'm not an adbl. I am 65 yrs old with bladder retention and bladder diverticula. I have occasional urge incontinence, but the doctors are not sure why. I did have green light prostate surgery about 6 years ago. I do wear diapers when I don't think a restroom is near, and at night...sometimes I am fine, sometimes not. I am somewhat ashamed of this, but also afraid of having an accident. I will be traveling with my wife and another couple this fall to Italy. I'm a bit nervous about this (packing diapers, concealing the fact, etc. Anyone that has some ideas of how to manage this situation would be greatly appreciated.