I posted this in my group and got no responses since it's an inactive group and there are barely even members there. Also I wasn't sure where to put this topic anyway so I put it here since it's more about parenting.
I see nothing wrong with using bottles or pacifiers or wearing diapers as underwear. But my husband always has to be the one to help me through it. My son has found my pacifiers and would put one in his mouth. I found it funny and cute because he looked silly with it in his mouth. I didn't find it a big deal that he was playing with them but my husband told me he is a big boy and to take them away from him. I told him I use them and why is it okay for me but not for him. He told me our son is a big boy and I am an adult baby.
Another time he found my bottle in the fridge and took it and drank the juice out of it. I thought it was so cute. But my husband told me I am not to let him do that and he is a big boy.
What if my son was playing with diapers after he was potty trained? Putting them on and just wearing them off and on and wearing them as underwear and peeing in them sometimes? I think okay no big deal, it's not like he wears them to school or 24/7. I remember wearing pull ups at age 5 and my parents knew but didn't stop me. They probably thought it was no big deal. I still used the toilet when I had to go so I never used the diaper. Then when my youngest brother was four, my mother let him and my other brother and another boy play with his old diapers when they wanted to play baby. See why I would be so confused?
I also played with pacifiers and bibs when my brothers were babies and my parents saw it as no big deal and I grew out of it. Textbooks on child development discourage such behavior. I also remember lying in my brother's crib and my mom let me do it.
So here I am as a parent who is into AB/DL stuff and find diapers as no big deal or bibs or baby food or lying in cribs or using sippy cups or pacifiers or bottles. But I wouldn't want them doing it at school or do it at friends houses or around their friends because they might get teased about it. But what if they all decided to play baby so my son decided to use his old diapers and sippy cups and bottles and bibs and play with those? No big deal since I have played baby with my own friends and we broke one of the umbrella strollers.
So thoughts on this?