I'm new here but I have been an AB and/or DL for 60 years now. I'm posting this as a new thread because I'm looking for responses regarding imprinting as the cause of ABDL tendencies.
I can imagine how traumatic it must have been for both GinaW and her teenage son when she discovered him "playing with himself in a pair of Depends adult diapers". She must have been completely dumfounded by the incident and her son must have felt shocked and deeply embarrassed. No doubt both feel a fair amount of guilt over this, and Gina was desparately looking for some explanation for this behavior.
I was impressed by the numerous compassionate and intelligent responses given by members here. Personally though, I have never been satisfied with any of the conventional, Freudian, explanations given for this intense desire to be babied and/or diapered. I am curious as to why there has been no mention of imprinting in response to GinaW's post as it seems, to me anyway, to be the most logical explanation for this behavior. (If it was mentioned I missed it and I apologize).
Imprinting is one of the ways humans and animals aquire certain characterstics and behaviors. A classic example often given of imprinting in the animal world is that of baby ducks. Shortly after a duckling hatches it "imprints" on it's mother and starts a pattern of following her around. You may think the duckling is born with the tendency to follow the mother but this apparently isn't the case. If the mother isn't present at the right time, the duckling will imprint on practially any nearby moving object of reasonable size. And it can even be an inanimate object. Researchers have had ducklings imprint on their boots and the ducklings would act as if the researcher's boot was it's mother. This shows that imprinting does not always have logical or evolutionarily sound results.
Imprinting occurs relatively suddenly at critical times in our developement and tends to cause permanent, lifelong, traits and behaviors, and is distinct from the "normal" method of aquiring information through the process of learning. Learned desires can be unlearned. Imprinted desires can't be unlearned. Recent studies in human sexuality lean towards the idea that even our sexual identity (male/female), and our sexual orientation (hetero/homo) are imprinted characteristics. This could explain why some of those born as males feel they are really female and vice versa.
Human developement is a complex mix of genetic, learned, and imprinted, information accounting for the many variations in our behavior, both sexual and nonsexual. I firmly believe imprinting is the root cause of ABDL tendencies. These desires are permanent and will have a lifelong effect on the individual. If you are reading this, GinaW, I hope you and your son will realize that what occurred in the past to cause this ABDL fixation was a random act of nature, totally beyond human awareness and control. It's not the fault of either of you. It just happened.