Now I know there have been a number of threads along these lines. I have read them and not gotten the answers I want. In fact, reading one of them made me more confused than I was before. So I thought it was better to ask for your advice/opinions.
I am not sexually attracted to anyone. I can't not think of anyone I where I have seen them and thought they were sexy. I have had numerous occasions where people have used the phrase 'the hot one' to describe someone and it doesn't help because I have no idea who they mean. Normally, you could say that I was asexual and that was that...
I by definition can't be asexual because I want to have sex with people, almost as if it is the sex with someone else itself that is important. I would say I am bi but I am NOT attracted to anyone, male of female. It is simply a lack of caring who the sex is with, not seeing someone and going - ooh, they're hot. There are people I find unattractive but I can think of no one of either gender who I have found sexy - even if I would very willingly have sex with them because I want the sex itself.
Simply I cannot be bi, gay or straight simply because I am not sexually attracted to people. Equally I cannot be asexual because I want to have sex with people for the sake of sex with someone else, even if I am not attracted to them.
Can anyone help me work out what this means? Is there anyone who feels the same as me? What do you consider yourself to be?
Thanks for your help.