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Thread: Leaving for a while and the change has had concequences...

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    Default Leaving for a while and the change has had concequences...

    As I am sure by now, everyone is aware of the recent rule change of ADISC going 18+, thus meaning a lot of posters under this age were forced to have their accounts suspended until they turn 18.

    Having had time to digest the news, I am saddened to say that for the time being at least, I will be saying goodbye to ADISC for a while. How long will I be away for, I don't really know, most likely until my fiance is old enough to post on here again in a years time, although it all depends on whether the site is still as we all know and love now.

    Of course, I understand why Moo decided to take this route and I have no grudges against him or anyone else involved in this decision. I am just saddened that most members were not given a proper warning of when the new rule would come into force. If they had been given a few days notice to say goodbye, then maybe I wouldn't have been so upset but some of our younger members were very active on the site and I just think a bit of common decency would have been nice to them.

    Now, the impact of ADISC going adults only is that many of those looking for support will no longer be able to simply go on ADISC and find the support they need.

    The impact of the new rule changes I am sure will affect many of the younger posters, in fact I know it has to one member already.

    Shadowhawk was rushed to a urgent care facility last night with chest pains that mimicked a heart attack, although thankfully that wasn't the case. Instead he was diagnosed with bad viral bronchitis which the doctor described " was made a lot worse by stress."

    Since it's viral, he can't take any medication for it so he is on bed rest for a day or two. He is currently finding it hard to talk and breathe and it could get worse. If anyone here who knows Shadowhawk thinks that this is BS, go and message him and find out for yourself.

    I didn't sleep very well last night because of all this. In fact the only time I managed to get some sleep was when I found out that Shadowhawk was coming home, this was about 2am although I did talk with him a little bit when he got home.

    ADISC was a big part of his life and now.....it's gone. All day he had been worrying about what life would be like without this site and the thought that not being a part of this site for a year lead to him being rushed to the UCF scares me. I am sure he is not the only kid who feels like he has no where left to go.

    ADISC helped me so much when I first found the site. I was accepted into a community of wonderful people who were always there for advice. The endless hours on the RP forum when I should have been sleeping will never be forgotten. Talking to new people, it was great. I will always hold a special place in my heart for ADISC.

    But right now, I just need some time away. Will I be back?, yeah I probably will, but for the next few months, my activity on this site will be very limited. I have my own reasons for leaving, some I won't discuss with others, but I would like my account to remain should I decide to venture on here again one day, but right now, I just need time to reflect.

    Thank you for reading everyone, hope to be back soon, whenever that will be.

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    Please pass along my well-wishes to Shadowhawk. He was an excellent member, and his presence will be sorely missed around here. I'm sorry to see you go, as well, but hopefully some time away for you two to get your footing and sort out where you go from here will do you some good.

    Take care!

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    I understand your reason for leaving and hope to see you again in the future. I doubt the site will change much in a years time.

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    Much to my horror, and bewilderment...a few months back, I too logged on to a brick wall...I never found out why. My point is, even at my age (34)...I was deeply shocked, and saddened...I was overcome with grief, and humiliation, and abandonment...I pacified myself with the notion, a regrettable error has occurred...

    I was returned under equally mysterious circumstances...keep hope! I feel your sentiment, and appreciate your vulnerability...

    In the coming weeks, I intend to seek counsel from various resources...to see what alternative forums for teens can be made, while avoiding the sexual connotation of fetishes, and such...that would likely legally plague any website that caters to teens, and our particular issues. As, it's been suggested...there may be a way to do that right here at ADISC...though no one can promise that now.
    Hang in there Shadowhawk, and all the rest...
    -Marka

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    I'll miss you tkuk, but you have to do that which will make you feel at peace. I would like to think that there are sites out there that might be more general help/support sites for teens. There is such a great need, that they must exist. I've not investigated, because at age 65, I have a different set of needs. Those must be similar to Marka's, because when the site is down, I begin to panic. I know that's not a rational reaction, but it's how I feel. This site is my window on the world, a window which connects me to what should be the strangest people in the world, but ironically, are my second family, a core of friends who accept me with love and understanding. That means so much to me.

    Just remember that we are here for you tkuk, and will be when you return. Everyone travels in their life, and everyone comes home to visit. When you get to be my age, home, whatever that is, becomes a very special place, one with fond memories.

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    I don't know why,but I feel a little bit different about all this. I have experienced times in the past where I logged on and the site was down for whatever reason. Did I panic? No. Why? There are a LOT more important things in life than to base my happiness on the exsistance of a website, no matter how good it may be.

    Maybe I am of a different mindset, I just don't get how people go into a panic and end up in a medical facility over a website being unavailable to them. For me, when I logged on and there WAS NO ADISC, that would be more to deal with than to log on and find out that there has just been a rule change and that the site was actually still there. Anger and frustration might be among the emotions I can imagine people feeling for a while about this rule change, but the fact remains that this site still exists.

    However, IF this really IS the ONLY means some teens had and if somehow this site really meant that much to a teen that they need emergency medical treatment because they got locked out, I would imagine that that person really needs to get out in RL and make friends. For a website to hold that much priority in someone's life is less healthy and perhaps more damaging than a diaper fetish could ever be. If someone is in that much need of help and is clinging that desperately to this site, then I feel that those people are in need of a level of help that this site will ever be able to provide.

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    What Cherub said! I couldn't have said it better myself..in fact I probably would have said it far worse....seeing as I'm known for being rather blunt (shall we say) at the best of times

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cherub View Post
    I don't know why,but I feel a little bit different about all this. I have experienced times in the past where I logged on and the site was down for whatever reason. Did I panic? No. Why? There are a LOT more important things in life than to base my happiness on the exsistance of a website, no matter how good it may be.

    Maybe I am of a different mindset, I just don't get how people go into a panic and end up in a medical facility over a website being unavailable to them. For me, when I logged on and there WAS NO ADISC, that would be more to deal with than to log on and find out that there has just been a rule change and that the site was actually still there. Anger and frustration might be among the emotions I can imagine people feeling for a while about this rule change, but the fact remains that this site still exists.

    However, IF this really IS the ONLY means some teens had and if somehow this site really meant that much to a teen that they need emergency medical treatment because they got locked out, I would imagine that that person really needs to get out in RL and make friends. For a website to hold that much priority in someone's life is less healthy and perhaps more damaging than a diaper fetish could ever be. If someone is in that much need of help and is clinging that desperately to this site, then I feel that those people are in need of a level of help that this site will ever be able to provide.
    Ok, I feel like I have to say something to this since Shadowhawk can no longer post on here.

    Firstly, ADISC is more than just a diaper fetish site. It's a support site, where people (in my experiences) are willing to offer advice to people who need it, whether it be diapers, or how to cope with stress in everyday life. It is a place where people can come and help each other for whatever reason. That option has now gone for him.

    It's not just ADISC that caused him to go to the UCF, it's a chain reaction of things that has happened to him in the past. Earlier this year his Mum died unexpectedly on the operating table. How do you think that made him feel? I can tell you nearly a year on from this, he is struggling to adapt to the events and it breaks my heart.

    ADISC helped him overcome some dark moments in both our lives. We both had suicidal thoughts, but with the support of ADISC and others, it helped both of us get on with our lives.

    He spent lots of time trying to help others who needed help on ADISC, and I am sure those who saw what he written will agree that he puts so much detail into his posts, all to help other people.

    He was a Top Contributor who donated whatever money he could spare to help keep the site going. He always wanted to post on the RP forum and was a constant thread starter on there.

    I can tell you he has friends that he socialises with out of school so please don't insinuate that he needs to get out more. It's not just the fact that he can no longer contribute to ADISC that made him feel so bad. This year has been difficult for him emotionally and being off a site that he holds close to his heart for a year was probably the tip of the iceberg. It's his birthday in a few days and it will be the first christmas he has without his mum there. We all take a lot of things for granted, one minute everythings fine and the next, things can change and be taken away from you just like that.

    So please don't make assumptions on people who you don't know very well. Maybe I should have included all this on my 1st post but I can't stand back and not get my thoughts across while he is powerless to say anything in response.

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    Pass along my regards to shadowhawk. I respected him, and wish him well. Get well soon.

    -PacifiedByKnowledge

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    This was a safe haven for many when the outside world they should go to shunned them for being different. Now with this gone... I saw Ben/Shadowhawk's journals on this... Why couldn't this site just put up mature blocks or something like every other site out there? furaffinity has adult art, but it found a way to keep -18 and so did deviantart and YouTube. This site could've done it, but didn't. The reason? Easy way out? I dunno.

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