Hey everyone, sorry if i'm doing anything wrong by kind of re posting something I posted earlier but as the title says I told my girlfriend (there is a thread in mature topics about the struggle I had to actually do it. But this is kind of an update as to where we are and Id like to know what people thought of the situation:
''So I told, I really didn't think I would but I did. It was hard, emotional, but ultimately thanks to my wonderful girlfriend, it was a weight off my shoulders. I stupidly got her worked up worrying about what it was, but slowly broke it to her. I tried to outline what I liked, what I didn't like, that it didn't change me and that I was expecting nothing from her. She was pretty amazing, at first she laughed and I could really see the relief (she was really panicking what it was). We talked and she told me she still loved me, if not more so for being able to open up. She could see how hard it was. We parted in really good terms. When she got home on her own it changed a bit, I begged her to be completely honest no matter what and she told me she was struggling a little bit to get her head around it and she had a funny moment when she was a bit emotional. What bothers her is that I hid it, but not so much because she didn't know because I had to go through it myself. She's such a caring person. The last few days have been pretty wonderful and we seem even more in love with each other which I really couldn't believe was possible. There's just a whole new bond between us. So anyone considering telling I would say do it, but be honest from the start and make sure there is a real bond there.
The only negative out of the whole thing is since opening up the urges and desires to wear have been amplified ten-fold. I'm really struggling to suppress my desires but with it only being a few days I don't think its the time to talk much more about it. My partner said last night she's not ready to go in depth about it, but soon we will she just needs time to take it in, which makes sense. I asked her to show me what she had Google'd after I told her (some threads and questions online get some really strange replies). There was one in particular I didn't want her see because it wasn't an abdl but as I should have guessed of the two she looked at it was one. She was fine about it though. When we were browsing last night for what she read two videos came on of people wearing and she covered them up. She realized instantly and said she just didn't want see other peoples backsides. I knew that wasn't the case though, but I'm trying to give her as much space and time as possible.
To anyone that has told, how long after the initial shock could you start to really open up, and maybe even wear in front of your partner. I don't want to scare my girlfriend with too much, but I'm struggling to fight off desires at the moment. Thanks for the advice everyone, it gave me the guts to tell her and I ''think'' were going to be stronger for it.''
Sorry if Ive done anything wrong here