A good friend of mine who hosts another ABDL forum recently racked up a $1400 legal bill while defending the site from the absolute stupidity of a member who thought going around and digging into people's lives outside the forum was a good idea. Some of you probably know the site, but I'm not going to mention it as I doubt drawing more direct attention to his situation would actually help him.
That's why I'm writing this as at this point I don't know where else to turn for advice on this. Over the last couple of weeks since that situation started for him I've seen both his physical and mental health go into a nose dive, along with his finances. He's facing losing his home, and he's already lost his only working phones, and yet he refuses to say anything about this to anyone on that stupid site.
He has been in and out of the hospital 9 times since November 15th for chest pains and other issues and yet he refuses to say anything because, and this is an actual quote "I don't want them to feel like they have to pay for my screwup." The "screwup" as he puts it was not making the admins sign an actual contract with him so any legal crap that gets slung at the site gets sent his direction instead of where it should go.
He can't see how the situation is destroying him, and nothing I or any of his other friends say seems to get through to him how serious the situation is. Does anyone have any advice on how to handle the situation? He's dangerously close to going postal, and if he does and is put in a mental health facility it will pretty much guarantee that his parents and roommate will be homeless by the end of January. He's literally the only thing keeping that household remotely stable right now.
His other friends and I got together recently and paid his Gas and Water bills for him, and that has put some of us in minor financial binds (like a few credit card payments being a day or two late) which helped calm him down some, but not nearly enough. I honestly fear for his health right now, and there's not a damn thing I can do about it beyond what I've already done.