So I figured this topic could have two useful purposes: One, anyone who has had success telling a wife, girlfriend, husband, or boyfriend about their fetish can share their story and people who are trying to work up the nerve can see that its a fairly common thing to have a supportive significant other and possibly be inspired. Two, anyone who's looking for advice on telling a significant other can post asking for tips from those of us who have had success with it. I guess I'll start:
I'd say I've been extremely successful. Maybe I've been lucky or maybe I just know how to gently ease into these things, but the last two girls I've dated are now essentially D/L's. My ex-girlfriend still keeps diapers in her underwear drawer and my current girlfriend recently admitted to me that when I nearly moved out a few months back she was planning on keeping the diapers. Also when we ran out the other week she actually went out and bought some more on her own. They both took a little bit of convincing to actually wet themselves but in both cases after they tried it, they both admitted to being extremely turned on by it. Now there's something to be said for the idea that maybe I gravitate towards a certain type of woman but I'd consider both of these girls very different.
As far as advice goes, I can just tell you what worked for me. Alcohol was definitely my friend in both cases. We would be out drinking and something would come up and I would just make a little comment every now and then essentially saying you would look cute in a diaper. In my mind that left me the wiggle room for her to think maybe I was just drunk and being goofy. But it also allowed me to gauge her very initial reaction and kind of plant some seeds if you will.
After that, it was just about figuring out what they were already into and sort of slanting my fetish to jive with theirs. For instance the first girl had a kink for being tied up. So I kind of explored that and figured out it had a lot to do w/ being really submissive during sex. So after we had done that for a while I eventually brought up wearing a diaper after sex as kind of an extension of that submissiveness. Btw, I also really try to avoid using the phrase "wear a diaper" or "put you in a diaper" or whatever. I felt it's just kind of jarring for someone trying to be convinced to try this strange new thing. I went with "wrap you up". Sounds kinda strange but to me it was better than talking about wearing diapers right off the bat.
With the second girl it was more of the same kinda submissive thing but w/ a lot more of "this is just what Im into and I think you'll like it." With her we just hooked up one night and I had some already bought and when we were done I went and got one and "wrapped her up". We were both drunk so it was fine. Then in the morning we both woke up sober and she's already wearing it so it was a lot easier for us to both just kind of laugh and me explain that it was a kink I have. Like I said both girls got to where they would wear them all the time. The first girl I could literally take into the bedroom whenever I wanted and diaper her and she was into it. I think w/ her it was a little more of the submissive thing because she seemed to prefer I did it. W/ my current girlfriend I think she's into the voyeuristic aspects of wearing. She enjoys going out in them and wetting herself while we were out. She'll even diaper herself while Im away and send me pictures.
Definitely overall the biggest piece of advice I would give is just be comfortable with it. If your even a little uncomfortable with it, they will be extremely uncomfortable with it. But if you carry yourself in a manner like "yep, this is what I do, whatever" it does wonders for putting them at ease. You can be so at ease w/ something that they'll wonder if its actually a common thing (something my first girlfriend actually thought until I explained it actually wasn't a very common fetish). Whenever you do decide to bring it up, my advice is to just be as cool and calm about it as possible. "This is a strange thing Im into. I think it would be really hot if you tried it. If not, thats fine, but just be aware it's definitely a fetish I have. Everyone has one, no big deal."
Secondly, the more you can associate it w/ sex the better. Its way easier for a girl to be into something if she knows that participation will result in some sort of crazy awesome sex, especially if you've been together a while and really hot sex isn't exactly as common anymore.
So theres my way too long post on the subject. Anyone else?
Also I read through the forum rules, but wasn't clear on how sexual posts can be if they're anecdotal in nature, hope this didn't cross the line. Had a couple other things I was gonna share but I thought it may be a bit much. Anyway, hope this helps.