I wanted to share some of my issues here, since I'm still very reserved about sharing things vis-a-vis, especially with my wife and close friends.
I've always had wetting issues; and told my wife right from the outset of our relationship (not a problem/issue for her whatsoever). And even though it's been just shy of three decades, I'm still very much determined to keep this clandestine unless it is absolutely imperative that a 3rd party be informed.
Earlier this year (circa late spring), I began experiencing loss of bowel control, in addition to my day/night wetting. It hasn't happened around my wife...yet (knock on wood); but I'm sure it's only a matter of time, given that it's happening as often as 3x/week (yesterday was by far the worst, most emasculating experience to-date).
Yesterday, my doctor got me a referral to see a gastroenterologist about my bowel control problems; and today I found out from my urologist that I'm border-line diabetic.
I've always tried to hide (and to an extent deny) my wetting problems and wearing diapers because of it; but if it's determined that my fecal incontinence is permanent, I'm not sure how I'll cope.
Sharing your thoughts and/or personal experiences with being bladder/fecal incontinent would be greatly appreciated.
I forgot to add, that I've already had two colonoscopies (I just turned 38 this year), neither of which indicated anything was wrong. When I was younger, my parents took me to urologists, psychologists, and psychiatrists...I'm sure you can form your own conclusion on how my visits went.
I'm not a heavy drinker -- I work four jobs, and barely have time to play video games, let alone drink a few cold ones :-(
Also, although my father *is* (now) diabetic (has been for several years, from what I've been told -- he and I don't talk...ever), it's because he drank rye n coke (very excessively) for 25-30 years -- which would make sense.
--> Again, thanks for the replies.
It was difficult enough telling my doctor, since I'm a new patient (about two months now). I have a self-image to maintain. And if the issue is only temporary or easily remedied (I'm not a doctor, so I'm only speculating AND hoping), then I can spare myself the embarrassment of having to tell my wife that her husband is both bladder AND bowel IC. I'm not sure how I'll be able to work if my bowel IC issues don't subside/stop. Changing a wet diaper at work is difficult enough -- in fact, I rarely get the chance, so I'm always very thickly padded when I have to work (thank God for baggy pants).