I've been told I may have been co-dependent on my ex girlfriend. So if thats true since my GF was more like a mother to me emotionally, not in AB terms, I probably wasn't ready to have her be my mother in AB terms even very infrequently. Now I'm not even sure if I was co-dependent on her but I'm doing some thinking about it. Tell me if you think I was.
Has anyone ever been co-dependent on a loved one GF, spouse, etc and been an AB at the same time? IMO I don't think they go well together. I needed her so bad to help me through this rough time in my life that I couldn't be there for her as much as I should have. ETA: So it wouldn't have been fair for my GF to be there for me as an emotional mother figure and my AB mother if I couldn't give much to her.
In a relationship there has to be give and take. Without realizing it my GF was there for me more emotionally as a mother figure or counselor figure than a GF. I have set myself back quite a bit over the past few years in my addiction to marijuana and alcohol because I am so scared of growing up, being a man, and living on my own plus I have some self esteem issues stemming from bullying in school.
Anyone have some wisdom to share and/ or a personal story? I hope this makes sense.