Lately I've been a lot more depressed and upset, and it's mostly because of leaks.
I've been trying pretty much every brand I can afford since I started needing to wear protection, and while anything is better than the CVS brand pullups I started with, I'm having a hard time deciding which diaper to stick with.
My favorite brand thus far is definitely the Abena M4, but they're a little big on me (28" waist, 34" hips) and it's hard to get a really comfortable fit. Also, because they're able to hold quite a bit, I was generally trying to stretch them to only wearing 2-3 diapers per day. I always changed right before bed, and then wore that one until about an hour or two after I woke up in the morning, wearing some lighter protection during the middle of the day, and then changing into another M4 in the early evening, which I would wear until it was time for bed. Unfortunately this seemed to cause a pretty bad case of diaper rash, so when I restocked I decided to buy S4's instead - for what I thought might be a better fit, and because M4's were my first experience with wearing plastic backed diapers for several weeks in a row, I thought that cloth-backed diapers would make diaper rash less of an issue.
Well, the diaper rash has cleared up for the most part, but here's the dilemma. The last 3 nights in a row, I've woken up in a soaked mess. The tapes on the S4s like to fail while I'm thrashing around in my sleep, and end up leaking everywhere. Or worse, I fill them to the point of bursting and then manage to wet even more. Also, while the S4 is much much easier to conceal under a skirt, and more comfortable and less noisy to wear under pants, I'm worried that I'm going to leak while I'm out in public - which has happened a few times thus far, and is an absolutely mortifying experience.
So, should I try the cloth-backed M4's? Are the tapes any better at all? Also, does anyone have any suggestions of brands I might try that will give me the absorbency of an M4, but perhaps a bit better fit? Or, does anyone have any tips for achieving a better fit with the M4's? I've managed to get them to fit perfectly a few times, but more often than not they've felt loose (even though they held in leaks flawlessly)
Sorry for the wall of text, but I couldn't fall asleep after waking up in tonight's puddle and I'm just a bit upset at the moment