I now wear Dry 24/7 diapers nearly everywhere. They're thicker than the Abena diapers they replace. Even though I've never had a leak wearing them, it's still a worry to me. The Abena diapers did leak, rarely, but enough that I took to wearing a lined plastic pant over them.
I still worry about leaks in public and sometimes wear a lined pant over the Dry 24/7 diapers, but that gets very bulky. I like to wear a onesie, as well, to keep the diaper in place. My new fashion statement is to put a onesie over the diaper, and the plastic pants over that. I eliminate one layer that way, and still get the mental serenity I like. Yeah, it looks funny, but nobody sees it but me.