I was having a conversation with another *B/DL, and we started thinking about how our lives would be different if we weren't *B/DL's. Until now, whenever I had thought about it, I had kind of viewed my *B/DLism as just one part of my life, so I could always picture me going through my normal life with it cut out...just like I could picture living my life if I happened to not like certain foods or certain activities.
But when I really started thinking about it...I think my ABism is so deeply imbedded in me that I would be a different person and have a different personality if I wasn't an AB.
I mean, I'm a pretty shy, quiet, sensitive, overall nice person, I think. I feel comfortable being safe and secure without anyone else around me. I'm kind of like a little kid. I think a lot of that is related to some of my childhood experiences. Since I think my *B/DLism could also be related to some of those experiences, it seems like my personality and my ABism are kind of linked.
What's funny is that it seems like a chicken/egg argument. Did my personality influence me becoming an AB, or has my ABism affected my personality as I've grown? Or is it some kind of crazy mixed up version of both?
Of course, there are people with my personality that are not *B/DL's, and there are *B/DL's without my personality. So I definitely don't think this is something that affects people across the board.
Nonetheless, I'm curious about you guys. In what ways, if any, do you think your *B/DLism (or furriness or babyfurness) is linked to your identity, or even your personality? I think it's a pretty interesting thing to examine about yourself, and I'd like to hear from other people.