Now, this fits in almost any thread, so I posted it here. If anyone thinks it fits better elsewhere, then by all means move it. After my last big post, which albeit, was a bit scary, I thought I’d make one a bit happier.
Why not to be ashamed, embarrassed, or angry at your TB, AB, BF, DL, DF, LB, LG, Sissy, or anything else.
I’m going to start generally, go into each specific part of us (fetish just seems to have a dirty and sometimes negative connotation to it, so I’ll be replacing it with “part of us,”) and why we should accept it and be ok with it.
For those who have accepted your part, I hope I am preaching to the choir. For those of you who are struggling with accepting yourself, this is for you. After all, it is part of you, hence why I used the word “yourself” instead of “accepting that fetish.” First off, I understand that they’re exceptions, but I consider them exceptions that prove the rule, but you can’t stop liking something, or being something. I can’t stop being gay (despite what multiple large groups of people (I’m talking to you Exodus) believe, but I digress). I can’t stop being a TB or a DL or a Furry or anything else. It’s just not going to happen. The same goes for you (well, most of you). As my mother said when I admitted to being a TB/DL, “as long as you’re not hurting anyone, including yourself, what you do behind closed doors is your own business.”
TB’s/AB’s (LB’s and LG’s included)
Now, we’re very plentiful on the site, so I know there’s multitudes of examples of people who have no problem accepting the way they are, and that’s great! However, there are people who don’t accept themselves, and that’s by no means great. I know everyone has their own theories for what causes this part of us that wants to be a baby again, but for me it was a cocktail of being forced to grow up too fast and a few traumatic experiences, and maybe things I’m not even aware of. This isn’t my fault, and whatever you think caused you to be a TB or an AB isn’t your fault either. Would you blame yourself for having a certain color hair? Or for liking frisbee over soccer? I know most people wouldn’t. So why blame yourself or get mad at yourself for another thing that you can’t control? Besides, you’re just acting like a baby, innocently imitating something that is considered a symbol of innocence, so by association this is an innocent act, and doesn’t harm anyone.
Liking diapers may have a similar psychological cause to being an TB or an AB, but it is something almost just an innocent. Wearing diapers is something a lot of us do for a lot of different reasons, and without even getting into those reasons, a lot of us share one reason. We like to. There is no shame we should have with ourselves, no guilt or embarrassment (to ourself, getting caught by others can be very embarrassing) or anger with ourselves should be caused either. Liking to wear something, and use it for its intended purpose, as long as it doesn’t harm anyone, has no consequences, so no one should be ashamed or anything else about it.
Furries (BF’s and DF’s)
A lot of what I would say for furries is above, so I would suggest checking it out. Being a furry is something, despite popular belief (thank you media for giving us a bad rap), is something that can be innocent and fun. For what are furries but people with great imaginations who sometimes like dressing up and who have their own alter ego? Nothing, that’s basically all we are. We have the wonderful imaginations like children that can create beautiful creatures. We like dressing up like the alter-ego’s we create and other fun animals and it’s usually harmless. We have a side of us that helps us be what we want to be, whether it’s less shy or nicer or happier or anything else. None of these things are negative, so why be sad, angry, or mad about being something so amazing?
Despite what we’ve heard from the stereotypical jock, being a sissy is not a bad thing. So what, we like dressing like girls? Not hurting anyone, so no one should be ashamed of this. I myself am usually only a sissy on occasion, but for those who are exclusively a sissy, it might seem odd sometimes to want to dress like this. And yes, it’s a bit odd, but that only means that it’s not the majority of people doing it, there is NOTHING wrong with it though.
Now, throughout what I’ve said above, I stated that it’s all fine and dandy as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone, which it is. If you’re buying diapers instead of food, or stealing money for supplies, or it’s hurting your marriage, or something else that causes physical or emotional pain to a living person, then it is not ok. It doesn’t mean you need to stop or feel ashamed of a part of you, it just means you need to compromise so you’re not hurting anyone anymore. No matter what anyone wears, there will be people there to love them. No matter what anyone does, there will be people there to love them. No matter who anyone is, there will be people there to love them. And those people include me and a lot of other people on this site, so you if you still are having trouble accepting yourself, then please talk to someone, because we hate to see you hurt.
I hope this helped anyone struggling with this problem, and that’s for reading.