Just a thought I had driving home today, I've heard the phrase "Every marriage comes with baggage" as I am sure everyone has heard in at least different variations. One i actually found while searching for the wording i was hoping for wasWhich i thought was quite applicable to my thought."EVERYONE YOU MEET COMES WITH BAGGAGE FIND SOMEONE WHO LOVES YOU ENOUGH TO HELP YOU UNPACK"
Any way, the thought that came to my mind was:
Every marriage comes with baggage, but it is better if it comes with a closet instead.
Meaning being, that if somebody comes with baggage, it means they have all their secrets hidden and stuffed away, and haven't learned how to manage it. While those who have finally unpacked and organized, still may have the exact same items that were in the suit case of their secrets, but now it is in a closet where they can go through, use, organize, and understand the items that are behind closed doors except to those whom they trust.
Keeping secrets in a 'closet' is a whole different aspect rather than keeping it as 'baggage' because with baggage, the person doesn't yet know how to handle it.
I just thought this applied well to the life of an AB/DL or really anybody else (regardless that 'coming out of the closet' is generally referred to homosexuality). I'm just glad that i feel like over the last few years I have finally been able to un-pack my baggage, and put it in the closet, for me to organize some of my secrets and occasionally put on one set of clothes or the other, knowing what and how i should use these items of my life.