My husband has this habit of bringing up diapers and making weird comments about them. He didn't always used to, despite having broken up with his ex-girlfriend for being AB. In fact, it has only been since I realized I was DL (though he doesn't know, as far as I know, that I am DL.) In any case, he made another comment tonight, this time subtly insulting.
I was very sore from a bike ride and he was giving me a rub when he complimented my butt. I responded this with frustration because my butt gets a LOT of attention. When I say a lot, I really mean a lot. My butt is popular. I wear Apple Bottoms because nothing else fits my shape. I'm athletic, but store all my junk in the trunk. In fact, my butt once was so popular that I had a group of female coworkers who used to smack my butt every time I walked by (yes, totally inappropriate and I should have done something about it, but I was *very* young and didn't feel comfortable going to HR about it.)
So my husband kindly suggested that to make my butt less attractive I could wear a diaper.
Now, every time he says some weird comment about diapers, I manage not to give myself away. I don't panic, etc. I responded with "Honey, I think that would make people notice my butt *more* not less!" and a giggle to show him that his comment was silly. I didn't alert him to my love of diapers, I think.
But gods, every time he says something weird about diapers it just eats away at me. I keep my cool in the moment, then slowly over the course of days and weeks it just eats at me.
There have been tons of incidents of him insulting people who like diapers, which I just don't have the energy to elaborate on here. I just needed someone out there to know it happened yet again so that I don't feel so alone. Thank you people of ADISC for just existing and understanding what I'm going through. Knowing I'm not alone makes a huge difference.