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Thread: Can *B/DL tendencies be hereditary?

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    Hi all,

    I know that for a lot of *B/DL people, myself included, a factor in coming to it may be difficulties in potty-training, whether the difficulties are caused by a disability or not. My niece, now 5 1/2, was a big pain in her parents' butts to PT, and as far as I know only completed the process a few months ago (and at one point a friend of my sister's told her to put the girl in a diaper, to which my sister replied that the little cutie did not seem to care). I know I was difficult to PT at her age, but maybe my parents wouldn't have called it that since I had CP (my niece appears normal in that regard). My question is, since I completed PT at about five, and am now an AB, is it possible that my niece, who was in a very similar situation minus the disability, could become a *B too?

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    I would not say that the *B tendencies are hereditary per-say, but, certain personality traits are kinda in the genetic code. I would probly say that there are a lot of five-year-olds that do not care about diapers. At that age it probably does not make that much of a difference. Kids really do not care what they have on so long as they can still play in it like normal and probly most kids just would rather play than run to the bathroom.

    It could be that her potty training issues were simply that it took her bladder longer to develop. Some children's bladders do not grow as they grow and that is often times the cause of bed wetting in kids. So maybe her bladder just did not develop the proper feeling at the usual age.

    I was easily potty trained and almost never had an accident. I only remember one actually and I tried my hardest to make it to the toilet but it so happened that my older sister was already using the bathroom and I just could not hold it long enough and so I messed my pants. That was around the age of four. Other than that I never had a problem. My ab side stems from totally different reasons.

    I do not think that because she does not mind a diaper means she is *B. But it could also be an indication. At that age it is hard to tell. I actually think that for me it would be very weird to have another AB in the family. Even though my entire family knows about me(thanks to my mom's big mouth) I still think that I would not want a fellow AB in my family. I kinda like that I am unique in that sense with my family.

    So I don't know maybe she could and maybe not. It will be interesting to find out.

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    Just my opinion here since research in this area is so sadly lacking. I think if we dug into this hard, we'd find that many children have ABDL traits growing up. Development isn't linear. It jumps around and slips back sometimes. In the vast, vast majority of cases, kids don't attach any special significance to bedwetting, late or difficult potty training, or any of the things we might readily point to as pivotal in our development as ABDLs.

    My personal hunch is that most of us have the capacity and inclination to latch onto kinks (sexually driven or not) but what clicks for us is will be determined by everything in our lives. Someone else with different experiences and makeup up to that point could go through the exact thing we think is so critical and find it completely irrelevant to their overall development.

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    Quote Originally Posted by memorychick View Post
    My question is, since I completed PT at about five, and am now an AB, is it possible that my niece, who was in a very similar situation minus the disability, could become a *B too?
    That's not a hereditary situation, hereditary refers to genetics i.e. if a parent is an AB/DL then will the child be and since being an AB/DL is not going to be genetic then it cannot be hereditary. What we have here is a situational type of thing and it is perfectly possible that your niece could be an AB/DL later on as a result of her late toilet training, we see a lot of people here say that they were toilet trained at age 3 or later which could be a a factor towards becoming an AB/DL and while it is no means guaranteed that she will be one there is a chance she could.

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    I don't think developing into an AB/DL would be hereditary; I think it's more dependant on life experiences you have and how you cope with them.

    Parents can unwittingly enforce value judgements onto kids. For example, if a child falls of a swing, is shocked and hurt and bursts into tears, he might run to his mother who says, "It doesn't hurt. Big boys don't cry." or whatever and the child will see that it is pointless to express his pain as it won't be accepted or taken seriously, and take on the value judgement that says that, to be grown up, you have to choke back the tears and hide your emotions from public display. Having latched on to these ideas, when he grows up, he may well teach his children the same thing (and potentially induce in them the same kinds of neuroses that he developed).

    Parents who were abused often turn into abusers themselves by uncritically following the value judgements that their parents demonstrated to them.

    IF the development of AB/DL tendencies develops as a coping-mechanism as a result of the values and judgements that were imposed on you as a child, and IF those values/judgements came from your parents, then when you have children of your own, you MAY then exhibit the same behaviour and impose those value judgements on your child, increasing his/her predisposition to become an AB/DL...

    But that's quite a lot of "ifs" and "maybes"...

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    Well, as stated above she is not my child but my sister's, so I'd hope her parents won't raise her in a way that makes her further predisposed to AB/DLism.....but if I ever have my own kids, I know that both I and my significant other are emotionally (but not necessarily mentally) retarded so........all I can do is cross my fingers for the two children I wish to have

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    My sister and I are not too close but the last time we visited and toured our old home town I discovered we have simular "off beat" sexual interests. Not diapers for shure but others I'm hesantant to mention. If I'd the balls to ask I'd bet she is there too.

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    To the OP,
    I think what binkygirl said about the general personality traits being inherited is prolly right, for instance me and my dad have similar personalities, and I've noticed my male friends tend to mimic their dads in personality as well. Some personality's are probably more conducive/likely-to-lead to kinks and AB/DLism and while I won't go into detail, I discovered a while back that my dad certainly does have a few fetishes of his own because he was stupid and didn't erase his history before letting me use his computer *shudders*. So honestly, yeah the personality traits were passed down, but the kink varied. I'm a DL with some AB tendencies, he on the other hand is into kinks apparently.

    It's fucked up when you accidentally discover something like that about your parents interests... Goddamit I hope that never happened to you!



    Quote Originally Posted by Nam Repaid View Post
    My sister and I are not too close but the last time we visited and toured our old home town I discovered we have simular "off beat" sexual interests. Not diapers for shure but others I'm hesantant to mention. If I'd the balls to ask I'd bet she is there too.
    You talk to your sister about these things??? O_O I'm an only child so maybe my expectations of these things are warped but I'm kinda shocked at that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by datosprivados View Post
    You talk to your sister about these things??? O_O I'm an only child so maybe my expectations of these things are warped but I'm kinda shocked at that.
    Not talk in detail as such but bits and pieces & inunedo. In "82" at her wedding she hinted that she and her hubbie to be were in to porn and anal sex. I forget how on the first but the latter through Berlin's song "Sex (I'm A...)" by frferencing the line "I'm a man, I'm a boy". Five years ago she visieted and I took her to the strip bar where my girls and I worked. She seemed quite into girls... even said she frequented simular bars back home. Two years ago we toured our old home town and as we passed a house she said "so & so (male) lived there, we used to watch each other poop there after school." She would have been 9 or 10 at the time.
    Last edited by Trevor; 05-Sep-2012 at 02:23. Reason: removing auto-merged duplicate post.

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    I've often wondered this too. I sometimes wonder of given the chance to know that others were like them would our parents have been like us? But I have a strong feeling it isn't, are fetishes hereditary?

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