hi all, not been on here for a while since I've been busy. I hope someone can help me answer something I can't get my head around.
I believe it may have been discussed already on the forum but the search criteria just doesn't match my question.
basically, my dad moved in with me 2 years go. I gave him 2 bedrooms of the 4 I have and half of the loft (attic). before anyone wonders why so much space, well he has this horde syndrome where he has to buy stuff that may one day be useful. the rooms he has are filled with nothing but junk. he has started to fill my 2 car garage to which a car can no longer get in and my office where I can just about get in and walk through to get to my desk. otherwise he is pretty much normal, he believes there is nothing wrong with him though.
my original question is irrelevant to his issue, its actually something else. since the now lack of space I have. I have moved my diaper stash to the second loft and I have explained to him that bit is off limits to him and his stuff.
well anyway, for the last 3 months he's taken awful lot of time off work via holiday, and sickness. he hangs around the house and snoops around in my personal space. he goes through my dirty washing and my wardrobe and draws. I have told him time and time again to stop, but he just doesn't. we have had loads of pointless arguements to which he keeps saying I'm too paranoid. there has beens time when my girl friend was over and our 2 toddler was playing in the living room and he started to complain about the Lego pieces or toys on the floor. this one time I got angry at him and told him to fxxx off to his face. he went ape over it.
what I don't get is why does he go through my personal stuff all the time even though I've told him time and time to stop it and complain about my or my child's mess in the rooms I have dedicated for my family and are out of bounds for him. I truly need someone to help me understand why he won't leave me alone.
just to add, he has been up into my second loft already recently to survey the space but found my stash. he hasn't said anything yet but I do know he has called in sick from work again this week for god knows what reason but boxes and other stuff have been moved around up there.
thanks for reading and hopefully someone may know what's making my dad the person he is now.