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    I was just wondering what the best way to tell your best friend, who is my roommate by the way, that I wear diapers. I am in the same room as him and just wondering how to tell him. Oh and to let y'all know, we have been best friends for over 20 years and I know he is an open minded person.

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    I would suggest giving this a read over. It gives lots of great advice. http://www.adisc.org/forum/content/6...g-diapers.html

    But the thing to remember is most people don't really need to know. It is a personal thing and can even be a sexual thing for some. So would you want your roomate/friend knowing what kind of porn you are looking at or what other types of things you do in you 'personal fun time'? If you are the type of friends that share that, then go ahead and tell. But to be honest, i wouldn't want to know some of that from even some of my best friends. But that could just be me.

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    I'm also going to be living with a roommate once college starts in the fall, but I've only known this friend for about 6 months, but he already knows that I like to wear diapers. The way that I told him was a similar topic came up in conversation, which made it much easier for me to be able to tell him. However, a conversation like that doesn't arise too often, and while this is going to sound obvious, I find that sitting down and just talking it over and being completely honest is the best way to solve most problems like this. But ultimately if you do decide to tell your friend, how and when you tell him is probably best chosen by you since you are his friend and you understand him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LilMonkeyAlex View Post
    I would suggest giving this a read over. It gives lots of great advice. http://www.adisc.org/forum/content/6...g-diapers.html

    But the thing to remember is most people don't really need to know. It is a personal thing and can even be a sexual thing for some. So would you want your roomate/friend knowing what kind of porn you are looking at or what other types of things you do in you 'personal fun time'? If you are the type of friends that share that, then go ahead and tell. But to be honest, i wouldn't want to know some of that from even some of my best friends. But that could just be me.
    I actually entirely understand why he would want to tell, having been similarly situated once upon a time.

    Consider, one of the big things a teen looks forward to in adulthood is the freedoms associated with having his or her own space without having to answer to the constant vigilant eyes and controls and rules of parents. For a teen that enjoys diapers, the anticipation of freedom certainly extends into that portion of life. The trick is that one inherently loses some of those adult freedoms in a roommate scenario because the residence is no longer a completely private space. Someone in a roommate situation has to consider how his or her actions will impact the other roommate(s) and be mindful and respectful of the fact that the space is not only his or hers but the roommate's as well.

    Such consideration, then, can be a serious impediment to an ABDL that wants to occasionally indulge in diapers. If one is constantly fearful of being caught and/or other consequences that might stem from an unplanned discovery, the end result can be at least if not moreso stifling than living with parents can be. I mean, if one is 15 or 16 and gets caught with diapers by parents, it could be an unpleasant situation, but ultimately one that most likely won't result in loss of a place to live or serious financial consequences. On the other hand, if an ABDL is caught by a roommate that doesn't get it or gets freaked out, that roommate could decide to move out, leaving the ABDL on the hook to make up that portion of the rent and other bills, never mind any other drama or negative effects. Just the financial repercussions could be huge and very damaging to the basic existence of the ABDL. Such a huge threat to basic stability certainly has a very chilling effect on the expression of ABDL desires.

    Hence, one in such a situation might really want to tell. If you come out as an ABDL on your terms, it can go a very long way to, if not making it a pleasant experience, at least mitigating most of the negatives of telling. Coming out with it and having a roommate that knows can provide some avenue for an ABDL to indulge at least somewhat without fear of the consequence, even if that means nothing more than being able to wear a diaper under regular clothes while watching TV in your own home that you help pay for without the fear of being caught.



    In my case, I didn't come out as an ABDL to my friend/roommate of my own accord, or at least, I didn't initiate the conversation. I was in my room on my computer when he came in (with permission) to ask me about something. I had left my closet doors open, as I often did since it wasn't visible from the hall, and inside and very visible was my diaper stash. He saw them and asked me about them, and when he did, I was completely forward about it. I had never gone to any real lengths to hide the fact that I was an ABDL, since we got on pretty well and all that and I wasn't worried about getting caught at all, but I'd never initiated a conversation specifically about the topic, either.

    In my case, he was totally fine with it, and we continued on pretty much as we had before. I didn't start randomly wearing openly around the apartment or anything like that. It did, however, afford me a large measure of comfort to know that it wasn't going to be an issue, and after awhile it would come up in the form of passing references (nothing mean-spirited at all). It also saved me on one particular night. He'd just gotten dumped by his then-girlfriend, and I was feeling a bit blue about some other thing. I shook up a martini while we sat on the couch commiserating about our various misfortunes, and he eventually decided he needed a drink as well. After three martinis each, we were both quite hammered, and I wound up soaking my side of the couch. Instead of it being a situation or a catastrophe, we kinda laughed about it and I noted that I needed to clean that up and get a change.




    That said, I don't necessarily recommend my method. If I were to do it again, I'd probably frame the conversation in the context of wanting to tell him so that if he saw something strange, that was why, and if he had any issues with it that I wanted him to be able to tell me about it. The trick is to wait for your moment, when the topic and tenor of conversation lends itself to you bringing up something a bit more of a business/housekeeping matter, or a fetish/odd interest matter, or something else that can lead you in. That's what I did when I told many of the rest of my friends, and it worked out quite well.

    If you do go for it, I wish you good luck! You'll have to let us know how it went eh?

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    If he has been a real true friend for 20 years just know you have nothing to worry about.... The only think stopping you if your fear of him or her knowing.

    BTW nice post Dragon

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    Ok just a little point here why do you need to tell him? Loads of people share rooms at college and don't tell each other all sorts of things unless you intend on openly wearing in front of him which he may not appreciate even if he's ok with your desires it doesn't mean he will want to be around you while your diapered, you could use pullups and tell him you wet the bed or something but if you use proper adult nappies then that's not really gonna fly. You may be better off suppressing your desires for the odd occasions you get to yourself I wouldn't tell my best mate unless he caught me in the act and that would never happen!

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    Well i think because he is your best friend for 20 years i think he will accept your secret

    But i think i can give some suggestions first is dont tell your secret right away. Just start the conversation with something and make sure you can explain it so he will accept it

    Well i say good luck

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    Basically, how does he think of you?

    One of my friends of 5-years, but one of my best friends during that time - and honestly, I trust her the most out of any of my friends (when it's not about her reliability) - I've always wanted to tell. All though I've never had the right chance, and I don't think I will.

    My ex-girlfriend on the other hand, over the 6 months that we went out, I'd hinted towards certain thing. Honestly, she isn't the sharpest tool in the shed, but I sitll have a bit of a relationship with her, so I was thinking about telling her at some point. Because I've hinted towards this in the past, and in the time she's known me I believe it is possible.

    If I decide to tell her, I imagine I'll look for a previous thread on telling an ex, but I doubt that exists, so I'll possibly make a new thread. But from how I, in the future, plan to go about it - that's what I would recommend. Start off tactfully.

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