My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. He told me very early into our relationship that he is an AB/DL. As a psychology major, I had heard of infantilism and had seen it on shows like CSI, so I knew what kind of activities and props he enjoyed. As time has gone by, he's slept in and wet his diaper, we've played with toys in the bathtub, bottle feed with formula and wore AB clothes. More recently, we incorporated me wearing a diaper into a bondage situation, which I enjoyed. I haven't been comfortable doing an AB weekend for him, but am working towards it.
My struggle has been separating the AB/DL and sex. I recently realized that he only orgasms when I talk about what mommy will do to her naughty boy or talk about diapers. I finally got up the courage to ask him about his masterbation routine as a teen. I knew he wasn't a huge porn viewer, so I was curious to know what he was thinking/doing. He said he was thinking about AB/DL things, so he's conditioned himself to orgasm to AB/DL thoughts. I'm supportive of him and what makes him happy, but want to be able to find a balance between mature sexual encounters (no baby references) and AB/DL encounters. Any suggestions on approaching this with him? Or helping him orgasm without AB/DL conversation?