I know this is a pretty controversial subject to some, including myself, but I realized something recently that I find pretty interesting, and I'm looking for some more input on it, as well as some differing opinions.
First off, for those of you who don't know, D***er messed me up for a long while when I first discovered my interest in diapers. After reading the stories he had on his site, mainly the ones in his...*shudder* personal collection, I had realized that all of those stories focused around the forced babying of, unfortunately, teenagers or children. Now, once I entered my darker year, when I decided to try and rid myself of the fetish, the idea first began to settle into my brain: ANYTHING involving forced babying, regression, or diapering is bad news, or just plain wrong. Even when I accepted myself for who I am a year later, I still held onto this idea, and as I grew as an *B/DL writer (ironic, no?) that was one of the big "no-no" factors on my list when thinking of stories.
Now, let me say right now that no matter what I say in the text to follow, I do not condone the use of forced regression, babying, or diapering of pre-teens or young children. This idea, to me, is still very, very wrong, and I simply can't give a story credit for doing something like this. It would have to be a pretty damn impressive story for me to give it merit for a plot revolving around something like that. But, about an hour ago, I did realize something that really made me question this: Is it always bad, the concept of forced regression in general?
Diapers and babying has always been a sexual thing for me, even if I don't feel that way all the time. Forced regression is, for the most part, a fetish-based concept. I apologize if I offend anyone who sees it as a comfort method, though if you do, I look forward to reading your comment, as it'll allow me to open my opinions a little more. Anyway, having said this, the title of a certain story on this site made me grow curious, based on the somehow familiar title, and the fact that it seemed like it would involve some kind of regression, as most *B stories seem to involve. I was bored, and I'm always looking for a nice read, so I decided to read it to see why it was so familiar. Turns out, I did in fact read the story before, on "another site", if you catch my drift. I remember stopping in the very beginning, as I picked up some very D***erish elements, so I was about to stop. But before I did, I decided to check the comments first. Admittedly, I was looking for a good flame war or debate on the story, as it seemed like the kind of thing that would attract that sort of thing. I always enjoy reading those kinds of discussions, but what I found made me cock my head just a bit. Those who commented, though some were definitely either lurkers or "questionable" characters, actually consisted of some reputable names around the site, names that I respected as people with good morals and opinions. Not a single bad word was really said about this story, pretty much, and I really began to see why as I read more.
The story was written very well. The grammar was top notch, the plot seemed to flow nicely, and you could relate to the protagonist even if he was very flat in terms of personality in the very beginning. I will admit, I didn't get past the third chapter, but I think I got a pretty solid handle on the story's pros and cons from those segments. Plus, I think I got what I needed out of the story, so there was really no need to read more in my opinion. Anyway, my point is that this story admittedly had some merit, and I respect that. Honestly, I couldn't really go on because it wasn't my kind of story. I'm a sissy, therefore I really can't enjoy a story with a male protagonist, unless he's a sissy as well. I need to feel somewhat of a connection to a character to get pulled into a story. Plus...the D***er-like elements just gave me bad memories and bad feelings began to spring up, so I thought it'd be best to stop (big sisters...*double shiver*).
Now, on to the main point of this thread! *cue trumpets* What I got from re-reading the beginning of this story, and reading the comments that followed, is that when used correctly, forced regression isn't always a terrible method to use in a story. Take my latest story, for example: the two main characters might be considered traps in a "forced regression" scenario, but take note of these facts. Both of these characters are full grown adults in their twenties, and they themselves are changing reality that in-turn causes the people around them to baby them (it's a commission story, bear with me). It might seem like their regression is forced, at least for one of them, but keep in mind that this is really just a side effect from their initial change in reality. Though it might not have turned out the way they expected it to, they did initially want the change to take place, and they wanted to be treated younger. The regression isn't really "forced", per say; the people around them honestly believe them to be children. Therefore, they people in charge of them treat them like children. Fair enough, no?
To summarize, I now see that forced regression, babying, or diapering isn't necessarily always a bad thing. In my opinion, as long as it's:
A) Involving adults or late teenagers, not pre-teens or children.
B) Based on love, not revenge or punishment (there's still a difference between forced regression and diaper punishment, at least to me).
C) Used well, and not just put there for the sake of fapping. There has to be good reasoning behind it, not just "O you popd yer pantz? Now yer a bebe!"
D) Isn't the main focus of the story. Like many good diaper stories, if the main plot or personality of the character revolves around diapers, then it's not really a story, just a list of events (arguably; there are some out there that are good, but it really depends on the context).
Sorry if I strayed from my main points up there for a bit; when I type for this long, I tend to go from topic to topic. I'm not really sure if I did stray or not, but better safe than sorry. Again, if I offended anyone with my general statements, I truly am sorry. My question to you is this: What are your opinions on the topic of forced regression/babying/diapering? Is it always terrible, or can it be used to a writers advantage if he/she wields it in the right direction?
Your friendly neighborhood Dragon Slayer,