okay here's what happened, so theres some understanding of why what happened yesterday happened.
i went to me gf's birthday party, and for some reason she made it six hours long. my mom said it was ridiculous and i tried to explain that she's let me go to longer events before, but even so my logic didnt work. she dropped me off an hour late and was an hour early in picking me up. so in the car:
"did you have fun?"
"i did, until i had to leave before everyone else"
that set her off. she got really pissed and i tried to explain my standing. her parents were both there so there was no justifiable reason for me not being able to stay. some of the events of the party were even truncated (made shorter) because they knew i had to leave early. it was unfair that i had to miss out, and she said she was mad because "i am the idiot who keeps driving you places and doing stuff for you, and this is what i get from it every time and i still do it" a total pity party just because i blatantly pointed out that what she had done was wrong.
SO, i told her (this is yesterday,like a week later) that two friends wanted to get together (doesnt know she is my gf) and wanted to hang out at her house. she said no, saying again that why would she if all she was going to get was bad attitude. she once again brought up the rant form the party and somehow managed to fit every aspect of life into her stupid speech about how i should be thankful and stuff. and she added she thought it was bad that people just 'hung out' without any reason. honestly thats the stupidest thing ive heard all week.
and this isnt a new thing. all through life ive had such a hard time getting to hang out with friends at home or somewhere else because my mom's stupid rationale is "youll see them at school and church and thats enough" and i keep thinking 'what is your problem?'
and its an even harder time to get friends to come to my house which makes no sense considering my sister once had a friend from texas stay at our house for like two weeks. mine arent here for even two hours. theres actually been only about four friends that i can ever recall being at my house. thats just sad.
granted, she grew up in a third-world country before coming to live here in the US, so she doesnt know how things are done here, but still, you'd think she'd pick up a few things. she acts almost as if parents (including her and dad) are dieties of some sort that have to be obeyed and honored above all else.
does anybody else have a mom that likes to control your life? does anybody else have these troubles? am i in the wrong? how do i fix this s***?