The title says it all, stay with me if you want some more details.
We've been together for more than three years. Few months ago I decided to tell her. I've had a ferocious inner battle about coming out. The conclusion was that I cannot hide it from someone with whom I might spend the rest of my life with. It would be dishonest and potentially dangerous to our relationship.
Figuring this out was the easy part. Now, I'm not exactly the outspoken type. You can probably imagine my struggles. I had to make it easier for me, and hopefully for her. Also, I knew I had to tell her in person. It's not only a mature thing to do, It's also about showing your honesty and emotions. It leaves very little space for misinterpretation.
I told her that there's something about me that she's yet to discover. I swore to answer any question she might have frankly. It became a kind of guessing game for her. Every time we met (we don't live together) she asked one or two questions to narrow it down. Quickly she knew that it's something sexual and emotional but figuring it all out took her about two weeks.
Finally she knew so much that she only had to guess an item to which I'm so emotionally and sexually attached. When she did it I remember trembling and having tears in my eyes. She hugged me so dearly then and assured that her feeling towards me hasn't changed at all. I suppose it was easier to 'make' her figure it all out rather than telling her right away.
She didn't ask a lot of follow-up questions like I thought she would. I knew that she'd need some time to absorb new information. We talked few more times about it. I've shown her some photos that turns me on, to help her understand better. Last week she decided to 'make me happy'. She'll let me diaper her and do the same to me this Thursday. We're going to enjoy a house for ourselves for the evening and night. I'm so happy right now. I've also bought a new pack of Tena Slip Supers today. I can't wait!
I'm sure that I skipped or cut some parts of the story. Feel free to ask any questions. I'll try my best to answer them.
The whole situation is very new to me. Coming out, girlfriend accepting it and willing to participate and so on. I'm thinking hard on how to proceed and how best to ensure her comfort. I don't want to screw this up. Any suggestions?