(I think this would be the right forum, because people have talked about coming out here...)
Title basically explains the thread (seems to be better if you do that rather than expecting people to actually read the post )
I have told my two closest friends about being ABDL.
I picked my first friend to tell because I felt like I had to tell *someone* if I wasn't ashamed about being ABDL (which I'm not, embarrassed yes, ashamed, no.)
I picked her because she and I were close (obviously she's not a gossip; we'd had conversations where we'd both shared private information about each other (including her telling me she was asexual I knew she had heard of other kinds of kinks; plus at the time she was the one out of my three good friends who I got to see on a regular basis. There wasn't any *need* for her to know, but I wanted to tell someone and I thought she wouldn't mind carrying the burden of me telling her, and because of above reasons I thought she was unlikely to abandon me over it.
That was a year ago, it went fine and we're still great friends
Very nice for me... but opening it up to discussion
1) Is there anything people want to put down as good criteria for a friend to confide in about being ABDL?
I'd add "age" to my list, although it wasn't an issue for us as we're both in our twenties.
2) it seems like in a lot of the coming out stories people chose female friends or their mothers to talk to - what's with that?
I have a bit of a problem getting along with men (see the fact that 2/3 best friends are women) so it doesn't surprise me that my case is what it is, but why is that the case for so many other people?
Can anyone comment on why they chose a female friend over their male friends or their mum over their dad?
My simple guess that a) people find the women in their lives more caring than the men, so easier to confide in & b) men not wanting to tell other men stuff that makes them look un-manly, because even if they do accept you, they'll probably rip you about it at least a little bit
if anyone cares.