All right, this is a theme that I've been picking up here and there on this website. So here is my question:
WHY would you want to tell ANYONE about this side of your life?
I think it's perfectly great to share that with a significant other, or people who are in this community.
Otherwise, I think it's enormously private. What is the compulsion to share? Why would you want to tell your family or friends about this? I really just can't wrap my brain around this - discussing my underwear preference (especially something not mainstream) with my family or friends just seems vulgar and wrong. If someone mentioned it to me, I'd think, "Why are you telling me this?"