Hi, recently my boyfriend of a year decided to come out to me as a diaper lover. I decided to join this site so that I could learn more about the community he is involved in, get advice so that I can understand it better, and possibly give advice to others in a similar situation.
My first reaction when my boyfriend told me, was surprise. I honestly had never heard of diaper lovers or adult babies - so I asked a lot of questions to help me understand what it involves, and how long it affects people. To be honest, I wasn't sure if it was a phase or if it was a life-long committment. After reading these posts, I now know that it isn't a fleeting interest, and many people struggle with this secret. From my point of view, I think all of you are completely normal. So what you like to wear diapers? It doesn't hurt anyone and it makes you happy, so I don't think you should feel shame in something that gives you pleasure.
As you can probably tell, I'm very accepting of this AB/DL community. However, I can see why some people would be uncomfortable with it. I think my biggest concern was that I think its okay to do something to make you happy, but I think it starts to be a problem when you rely on it to make you happy.
In other news, I decided to participate in diaper wearing last week to show my boyfriend that I couldn't care less what he's wearing, because I still love him for him. The experience wasn't bad and I didn't find it awkward at all and I've stressed to him that he can be comfortable wearing and wetting around me. I'm not sure how I feel about messing yet, so I think I'll need more time to take that step.
The main reason I'm writing this is because I want to help other people who have fears about coming out to their significant others. I can offer some insight and tips about timing and how to do it, and I want to give you all some hope that you will be accepted because it seems like there's mostly negative feedback.