I told my longtime (now ex) girlfriend after 2 years of dating. I figured, what the hell, we're in college, we're adults, she was a psychology major so she was knowledgable in human sexuality and was able to accept it quite readily. We broke up shortly after (not related to my DL-ism at all, she graduated and moved to the other side of the country).
I wanted to tell you all how I told my ex and get yalls opinion on it, and maybe see if yall have any other methods of coming out.
The way I went about telling her was through a typed message I had written up in Word (very easy to say exactly what you want, no studdering or stumbling on your words), describing a little background info on what I was trying to tell her, that it was very embarrassing, and critical that she reads everything thoroughly. I explained how everyone has their vices and security blankets that they use to shut out the troubles of the world and all that and how everyone has their kinks, and slowly progressed to a point where I flat out said "I like diapers, and I want to wear diapers". She said "is that all?" and we drove to CVS and I had a field day!
Now with my new girlfriend I can tell this relationship is different, its better than I could ever have imagined. Insert ridiculous mushy cliche here kinda thing. However the difference here is, not to sound like a arrogant ass, but, in my last long-term relationship I was the "better looking one", as in everyone said "how did she get him?" well now the tables are reversed, I feel like that lucky as hell nerdy guy who somehow wooed a supermodel with my personality. So to put it simply, I'm slightly insecure about it. So telling her is well, way more intimidating because I feel like if she is at all put off by it that she could literally get any other guy she wants (she's completely loyal to me, I trust her but when an unusual fetish gets involved you never know).
A few things I have working in my favor are the fact that she is interested in "kinks" (she took a human sexuality psych class and loved it) and she is very adventurous in bed and willing to try anything once. So I don't think it would honestly send her running. My biggest concern is her not finding me attractive or sexy anymore, which can lead to real relationship stress! I mean how sexy and manly is a guy sucking on a binky in a diaper?!
How have you all come out to your significant others and if so, how did it go, what (if anything) do you think you could have done to make it go better?
Edit: There was supposed to be a poll, but it didn't post for some reason