I didn't really know what to call this topic, either "Your perfect partner" or "Strange attraction to do with ABDL"?
As usual I overthink too much, and I always try to find causes and relationships between things, for instance between things that happened when I was young, and me being ABDL. The other day I realised something else and it may be weird, but if there was ever an accepting community it is here.
I am attracted to women and in the media and every day life there is this image of a "perfect" woman and even though that may be skewed, there does seem to be this idea of a conventional "beautiful" woman (and having chats with male friends confirms that). I would like to state that looks are definitely not the most important thing, but it is just part of being attracted to people.
Ever since I can remember I am not at all attracted to that conventional idea of a "beautiful" woman, but instead I am much more attracted to women that have more "imperfections" although I don't like that term. I feel attracted to women that are more curvy/chubby & plump; I love lots of pubic hair; big bottoms; wide hips and hanging breasts etcetera. I am lucky in that my girlfriend matches those characteristics (and she to me is perfect) but also when I happen to watch p0rn (yes... I admit I sometimes do), it is those kinds of women I look at. And even when I imagine a woman in diapers, I don't fancy the cute pretty girl, but again that rubenesque woman.
I never paid too much attention to it, although it was tricky when talking to my friends about women. The women they found beautiful and would make remarks about were not at all the women I'd like, but social convention, especially at a younger age, simply does not take into account a man that likes a different type of woman.
So I was wondering if I could make a connection to other aspects of my life and wondered whether it perhaps is another part of my AB/DL-ism. The need for diapers and the enjoy I get from it are feelings that are projected internally, but what if my attraction to those kind of women are part of the same feelings but projected externally? I mean, in ancient history this type of woman was the image of a goddess, the "mother", "earth mother" (see image) and even when you look at art from a much later time, such women are the ones in the picture (see image; it is not called rubenesque for nothing). So perhaps it has to do with a care-taking figure, a feeling of security and safety, in much the same sense as diapers give me that feeling?
Perhaps this is all nonsense but I am curious to see whether other people here have similar feelings, or can relate to this in one way or another or not at all. And if this is all nonsense in your eyes I'd be interested in what kind of partner you are most attracted to. And again, of course looks aren't the only thing, what is inside matters most and I'll have a think about that as well, whether that relates to similar feelings.