So, I've got a theory, which I'm fairly sure I've seen batted around before, but I couldn't find a link, and we've got lots of newer members so we can discuss it again.
I reckon that AB/DL's families, friends, spouses are always much more accepting when they are being told about this fetish, as opposed to finding out about it.
I think it might be something to do with them being on the back foot if you're telling them, and also to do with them having a big feeling of being trusted. On the other hand, if they find out by accident (eg find a stash, catch you in the act) they feel upset and angry because you haven't trusted them with it.
I've put this in mature topics because I'd like this to hopefully go in the direction of some sort of psychology based debate, and maybe we'll even get some article ideas with regards to telling people out of this.
So, have you told anyone or been found out? How did they take it?
Has anyone both told someone and been found out and noticed a difference?
What do you think?