The introduction of a new forum, and thus the new collection of threads surrounding sissies and LGs, has got me thinking more about how I identify not only as an adult baby, but as an adult little girl.
I identify very much as a little girl, rather than a sissy, partly because I am female and until today it didn't really occur to me that a female could perhaps identify as a sissy (could they?), but more-so because I am not interested in any of the parts of being a sissy (fancy clothing, female-gender stereotyping, humiliation/domination etc) that I associate (rightly or wrongly) with being a sissy.
I identify very much as a little girl, rather than a sissy, partly because I am female and until today it didn't really occur to me that a female could perhaps identify as a sissy (could they?), but more-so because I am not interested in any of the sides I associate (rightly or wrongly) with being a sissy (fancy clothing, female-gender stereotyping, humiliation/domination etc). I am very much a little girl when I play and my gender is not unimportant, however it is not something that needs to be specifically focused on, but is more something that will come to show itself in the way I present myself and the things I am drawn to over a long period of time.
Anyway, this has also got me thinking about the differences between being a 'sissy' and being a 'little girl.' In simple terms I thought that perhaps a sissy could just be described as a male who plays as a little girl, and a little girl as a female who plays as a little girl. However, I know that some males identify as little girls as well as or instead of sissies, and the recent discussions surrounding gender on the forums have caused me to further reflect on the differences. I also wonder whether a female could also be a sissy; is being a sissy determined by gender, by a set of behaviours, by a way of thinking, a combination of them all or something else entirely?
Although usually when somebody says they identify as a sissy I assume them to be male, I also assume other things about the person which the term 'sissy' conjures up for me ; sissies are dressed in very fanciful clothing, with an abundance of satin, bows, frills, lace and petticoats. They are dressed in dresses that would now be viewed as old-fashioned and quaint; impractical Sunday-best type clothing which must be kept clean and is suited to quiet activities. When a sissy role-playing the fact that they are a girl is very important and should be high-lighted in the role-play, and they should be encouraged (often forced) to stick to female-gender stereotypes (regarding clothing, toys, activities, behaviour etc). I also link humiliation, domination and punishments such as spankings alongside being a sissy, and again I see these themes as things which should be built into the role-play so that the sissy feels degraded in light of her gender. A sissy likes to be reminded of their gender at every opportunity. I am aware all of these 'statements' may not be correct, but these are the things I sort of assume when I think of somebody being a sissy.
On the other hand I see a little girl as a person (male or female) who plays as a little girl, but who doesn't conform to old-fashioned gender stereotypes and is far more like little girls today. Little girls who may like to wear pink and play with dolls, but who equally might like to climb trees in a pair of worn denim shortalls. Whilst identifying as a little girl, rather than a boy, may hold some importance and somewhat modify how one would like to be treated or act during role-play there is more fluidity regarding the clothing, toys, activity and behaviour that might be built into this. As I said, gender may not be unimportant and some gender stereotypes may be played to (eg: preferring to play with dolls than trucks or choosing to wear a pink filled dress) but they may also at times be broken and/or ignored completely. Whilst humiliation/ dominance/ punishment might feature within role-play for some gender is not highlighted as a main basis or reason for this treatment. (eg: humiliated after an accident for being a 'little baby' rather than a 'little baby girl'). That said, I still see gender as important for somebody who identifies specifically as a 'little girl' and certain gender-stereotypes to be played to (in the way that I think much of AB-play revolves around our perceptions and stereotypes of ourselves and others as infants), but the gender-play is less restrictive and leaves room for stereotypes to be broken from time to time.
These are just my personal stereotyped views on the differences between sissies and little girls, something which I haven't overly considered before, and I recognise that my views might be somewhat blinkered and misinformed and differ greatly from the views of others. I would be interested to hear other's views, and especially whether you identify as a sissy or a little girl (or both/neither), and why.
What do you think to be the differences, if there are any, between the two terms?