It has been quite some time since I have posted a thread, however I do have a bit on my mind I would like to throw out there.
I have changed enormously in the last year. I have done fantastic in school (Being in the top 5% of the university), gotten involved in my school and community, made a ton of friends, and have fallen in love with the Chinese language and culture after having lived there for a month this summer.
Given this growth in the last year I have had some events happen to me that, before college, I thought wouldn't happen. I have had girls actually take a liking to me (as more than just friends). There is this girl right now who is a pretty good friend of mine. We hang out a lot and I can tell that she is starting to like me as more than a friend. I sort of like her as well, but not 100%. I have thought to myself "What if she asks me, do you like me" or anything along those lines? I don't want to say "No I don't feel the same way", because I sort of do, but I don't want to say yes, because I don't 100%. You follow so far?
The idea popped into my mind of "Just accept her offer when it comes and develop feelings as time progresses". However, there is no way that could end well for either of us.
My reasoning for the previous suggestion came out of an experience of mine in China, specifically in Beijing. Long story short I met a girl from London there, who I soon learned was literally me in female form. This girl was pretty, intelligent, tri lingual, and had a fantastic personality. It ended up turning into a "Titanic esq" friendship. We went exploring Beijing with each other everyday and texted every night when we were both in our countryside locations. Needless to say, I "fell in love" with this girl. But, there was no way a long distance relationship (me in Detroit and her in London/Hong Kong) could have worked out. Long story short (again)...We skyped a lot when we went back to our countries, but now she does not want to chat, skype, message, etc with me anymore (no reason given). To sum this story up, this girl was "The girl of my dreams". She was everything I ever wanted.
The entire point to that story was to relate it back to my present situation. I want to tell this new girl that I like her if she says it to me, just so that I don't loose out on an opportunity so to say. It is odd...I really do want to be in a relationship, but when the time comes for one I start to second guess it, then I fear loosing it.
My question to all of you is this: Is committing to a relationship when you aren't 100% on board with it just asking for trouble? And... has anyone ever had an experience like any of mine listed? (I would especially like to hear one of your experiences of going overseas and falling in love if any of you have one)?
Thank you for your responses and for your time