Im just looking for a little help and advice to deal with my incontinence now that I've moved 200 miles away from home for university.
So, just a little about me- Im 19 and was a bedwetter throughout my childhood. In October 2010, I was involved in a skull accident and I also had another traumatic incident around that time too, which well, just knocked me for six and caused me to become doubly incontinent both at day and night.
So, its been just over 2 months since I moved to university. Its been an awesome change- Im doing a course that I absolutely adore and all of a sudden im high up in a social hierarchy, and im seen as being "cool and the person to hang around with". This is where my question stems from, because im really stressing out over my condition and trying to keep it as discreet as possible- Im very social and I have a high amount of lectures each week- 4/5 days I probably have 20 minutes break split over 9 hours so its all pretty frantic and im struggling to find a time and place to change myself, keep myself feeling clean and also keeping it discreet as I've normally got a bunch of people with me- This is obviously a massive problem for me, last Friday being a classic example where 10 minutes into a 2 hour lecture the urge hit me out of nowhere and i had a large BM.....not at all nice when you know you've got no other option but to sit there for 110 more minutes and will probably struggle to change myself properly until lunchtime.
I've approached the university disability team about this and they're next to useless....unless you're dyslexic or in a wheelchair they couldn't care less, so I feel a little lost.
I receive Maxi Tena Slips from the NHS to deal with my condition, which obviously aren't the most discreet diapers in the world- sometimes I can chance wearing Drynites, but these obviously cost money and mean I have to change myself more often.
Does anyone have any tips on concealing bulky diapers, stop sagging and smell....Ive ordered an abena bodystocking, hoping this may help, but does anyone else have any ideas?
Also, even though its been a year of me wearing diaper pretty constantly, Im still very nervous whilst out in public- Im writing this whilst travelling back to university on the train and I feel as if im being looked at weird....also, i get pretty weird looks and sarcastic remarks when I use disabled to change myself, but on reflection i doubt the general population expect a pretty average looking student to be dealing with such a problem.