I've been into diapers for as long as I can remember. It's been on and off for quite some time. It wasn't until recently that I discovered there are like minded people out there. I have found its difficult to actually find friends to share this with. I do have a gf who is very understanding and is supporting me. For me it's still a constant battle in my mind finding acceptance. I know for sure that I am dl. Not sure about he the whole ab side but wouldn't mind trying it someday to see how it is.