First of all, I know this is my first post but I've come to understand a lot of things by trial and error myself. I'll tell you my experiences and my thoughts about relationships, and how you can tell someone you love, about your fetish, if you should feel so. Which you probably must, you can't keep it a secret all your life, it kills you from inside out, trust me. You should all know that, come down to it, this is just a fetish. I know some people see it as a way of life, but to me, it is just a diaper fetish, just a fetish. And, seeing as it is a fetish, let us treat it like one . What I mean, is that you really shouldn't wear diapers in public if you're continent. You wouldn't like it if people wore buttplugs, or handcuffs, whatever, to public either. Diapers might not be as visable, but the idea of a fetish is that it is to do with sex. The only right place for sex is at home. At least that's what I think.
Take everything in this article with a pinch of salt, please. Not all my opinions are right, and not everything I say is true to anyone. Everyone is unique, let's keep it that way.
I can't really say there is much difference between a gay and a straight relationship, I mean, sure the body parts are a bit different, but there is love and commitment in both kinds, which is by far, the most important thing.
As it is a fetish to us, you should probably not go looking for someone with the same fetish as you have. Of course, it is easier on the both of you, and it makes you able to avoid a lot of embarrassment because you don't have to tell your other half about your fetish. But, face the facts, the chance you're going to find someone with the same fetish is small. It is not impossible, but it is small. You're far better off looking for a real love out there in the open world. And, as it is still a fetish, you're probably not intending to dive into someone's pants. When you're looking for love, don't think of sex as your top priority, hence, don't think of fetishes.
I found my first true love over 2 years ago. We're still together, and we're doing fine, we're happy together. We didn't like each other because we had anything in common. I mean, we have nothing in common at all! But, enough about us. The most important thing is that 6 months, or anything like that, is not enough to tell them about your deepest secrets. To trust someone completely you'll need more time and commitment than that. Of course, it's upto you to decide whether there's enough trust in your relationship to tell the other about your fetish. There is the possibility you feel confident after 6 months. Asking around on forums whether it's wise of you to tell the other secrets is silly and completely futile. I admit others can give you advice on how they did it and what the results were, but everyone is unique. How is someone on a forum supposed to know what's going on inside your relationship? They don't know, only you know. You're the only one that can make the right decision. I picked a wrong time once, it ended terribly, but I got myself out of it only to find out it was alright in the end. It's better to be an honest freak than a normal liar. Lying is never the answer.
Let me give you a hint about relationships. Not everything is about sex, I mean it. Fetishes are directly linked to sex and should be kept low. If you talk too much about your fetish to your love, they'll feel bad because it's the only thing you talk about. The same goes with sex. If diapers are all you want then the other will feel terrible. Make a compromise, find a good balance in your relationship. My love accepts my fetish and all my oddities, and I accept all the oddities and fetishes of my love as well. Whenever we talk about fetishes, it's both ways. Whenever we practice fetishes, each get their share in the game of love. Don't get dependent on your fetish, it's just an extra to your way of getting aroused, it is not the leader of your love life.
I hope this article helped you in some way or another. I've been wanting to type something like this for a long time. It's important for everyone to find love. And it's very important to get accepted by the love of your life. Hiding something is never an answer.