Well hello there
yeah I'm new, just introduced myself in a post.
I do have a question (main reason why I made this profile).
So I have a boyfriend for about half a year.. And he's into DL (as you might have figured since this is posted here)
I have to say he has been honest about all of it - he told me even before we started to be together that he was into it. I told him back them I didn't know if I could accept it, and if I could how much of it I could accept. After a while he started adding more stuff (like messing and so on).
He never tried one, although I know he wants to try them sometime. He still lives at home so he's a bit scared to try it there (with all the hiding and stuff). He did try messing though.
In the beginning, I could accept it. I thought it was a fase, that he would get over it later. But he just kept adding stuff...
Messing was a part I did not expect and came as a surprise (that he actually tried it, not that he would want to try it)
I don't know what I think of it anymore. I have no clue if I can accept it, and what I can accept it. I realized yesterday that if I can't accept it, the relationship will be over in the future since he can't change how he is. I wouldn't even want to change him.
But I do want to accept it. He still isn't sure what part it is in his life (I guess mainly because he hasn't tried one yet) so for me it's also not really clear what it will be in te future, what I have to accept.
I think this relationship, although it just has been half a year, is pretty serious. We've been thinking about living together somewhere in the future but before that I want to know if and how I can accept it and what it will be for him.
So my question is... has anyone ever experienced something like that? Does anybody know how he can figure out what it is for him? I already told him I do want to help him search for the place he has to pick the diapers up since he won't be able to find it himself. I also told him that if he wants to try them, I won't stop him. I just asked him to keep it to himself until he actually tried them (I didn't want to know when he would be trying them you know, that I would be waiting at home and knowing he would be trying them...). But I haven't figured out how I will be able to figure out what I can accept about it... Has anybody been in this kind of situation and has some ideas what I can do? I really really don't want to lose him, he means too much to me.
Thanks for the help
ps. I might need to say he's also into plastic and we've tried that and I'm ok with that. I don't find it as wonderful as he does, but when I see the look on his face I find it ok. I do not know if I will be able to try something like diapers or something....